Throw away account because she knows my handle on here.
I’m 26M and my girlfriend is 25F. Lately, I’ve been struggling with how she treats me, and I don’t really know how to address it without it turning into a joke again. She constantly calls me things like a “wimp,” “coward,” or makes fun of me physically (like calling me short, even though I’m not that short). At first I tried to laugh it off, but it’s become constant and honestly pretty hurtful.
On top of that, she’s very physical in ways I don’t enjoy. She pinches my nipples, grabs or pinches my butt not in a playful manner, sneaks up on me to scare me, pulls down my pants and is always “messing with me.” She thinks it’s funny, but it’s getting overwhelming.
There are other things that she does that I also don't find funny like when I’m in the shower, she sometimes bursts in and throws cold water at my face or if I'm having a cold shower, she'll throw hot water on me. She’s even put chili or something spicy on my toothbrush as a “joke”.
I know this might sound silly written out, but it’s gotten to the point where I feel on edge in my own home. I sometimes get anxious just moving around, wondering if she’s going to jump out, prank me, or if this is all going to escalate.
I’ve tried to brush it off, but honestly… it’s starting to really affect me. I feel disrespected and not taken seriously. I don’t want to be treated like this, and I don’t want to keep being called a “wimp” just because I don’t enjoy these things. The problem is, I don’t know how to bring it up in a way that she’ll actually take seriously instead of laughing it off again.
How do I communicate this clearly without it turning into another joke? And am I overreacting here, or is this actually not okay?
Why does she keeps doing this ? any advice ?