I 29F can’t stand living with my boyfriend 31M, can you give me some advice?
My boyfriend has been staying at my apartment for 2 weeks, and I am slowly going crazy.
First of all the mess, he tries his best to clean but we have different standards for what “clean” means, and on top of that he is the one that cooks so if something spills on the floor or gets stained he won’t clean it, he prefers to get a cleaner service once a week instead of cleaning himself. I can tell he is trying his best and I don’t want him to think I am a crazy cleaning freak, but I just love organized and clean places and cleaning his mess every time he does something is not an option.
Second, his eating habits…. He eats… a lot…. He is already overweight and he doesn’t care about his weight, but I do, we started dating 3 months ago, he told me he would lose weight and he did, but now that he is comfortable with me he is gaining weight again and he made me gain 4kg with the food he gives me… and he gets upset when I don’t eat all…. I have told him I want to lose that weight but just an hour ago he ordered a dozen donuts… I really do care about the way I look and my weight so I am starting to get depressed about it
Third, he doesn’t have a job, he doesn’t do anything at all except cooking and eating all day, he is a trader so he basically works one hour every day and call it a day, right now I am working remotely, but I have a normal job and have to be there for 6 hours, so our routine is, I wake up at 8 am, then he wakes up at 10 am, makes breakfast for both, he goes to sleep again until 1 pm, wakes up to make more food, then goes to bed to watch reels or do something in his phone and I finish work at 4 pm, then we watch movies together, we go out to walk or ride bikes or to the mall, but I feel like he could do more idk, it makes me a bit mad to see him just sleeping while I have to work.
Those are my main concerns, I don’t understand how can couples live happily together, I feel like I can’t… I am starting to wonder if I actually love him or not because this situation is constantly changing my mood.