u/Happy-Soup-3458

Hi all. I'll try and keep it brief. I have a 13 yr old son who is autistic and dyspraxic. He has bad anxiety surrounding school and hasn't attended for a couple of months, prior to that it was sketchy attendance. Been referred to EBSA team who are about as much use as a chocolate teapot, but I digress. He lost his dad unexpectedly about a month ago and this has obviously made everything worse. Now he has grief on top of his anxiety. Since learning of his dad's passing,his sleep patterns have been destroyed. He started with missing a nights sleep due to grief(up all night crying etc). Which meant that he fell asleep during the daytime on the next day. Which meant he wasnt tired enough to sleep that night. Which brings us to now. A few weeks of deep sleep during the day and being up all night. I physically cannot wake him during the day. He is aware that it needs to be addressed and agrees to try. But we get nowhere. He is supposed to be having online EBSA meetings twice a week and these now aren't happening as he is asleep.

I have tried letting him sleep a few hours and waking him, and then encouraging him to try and sleep at night, but so far it isn't working.

Help. I am under pressure from school/EBSA people. No mental health help or grief counseling is available. Grief counseling is only offered 3 months after the bereavement. School mental health team won't help as he's autistic. EBSA people suggested parenting classes, or giving him a routine ..... He was sleeping normally before the bereavement.

Any suggestions welcome