I am about 2 weeks postpartum with twins, and have a 3 year old as well. My birthday is today. I think today I’ve decided it’s time to plan an exit.
My husband is not an affectionate man, and forgetful enough that I really thought he has ADHD. I’ve told him for many years that I enjoy physical affection, but above all I enjoy the small actions where it makes me feel like he thought of me throughout the day. He is a very active father, and does a lot for the family and home. He’ll change a diaper, do house chores, cook, and I often express how much I appreciate him for what he does.
Yet, this man truly did not plan anything for my birthday. He really had no thought that his wife had traumatic birth 2 weeks ago, and he should at least do something. He quietly admitted to my father that he didn’t plan a thing, and then said he failed me when I called out my disappointment. It turned into a whole thing about him feeling angry at himself, and I truly can no longer find it in myself to participate in his pity party.
I think it’s time to leave. I won’t make this choice brashly. But he and I are both in therapy and it has not worked. I just feel like I had to get it out.
I did get myself a pampering session and cupcakes!