Does it get easier?
If they don’t go to therapy does it get better with meds?
My wife (31 f) and I (33 m) have been together for 4 years married for 2. Tonight she said she wanted a divorce because I told her I’d like better communication. Because for the 3rd day in a row she was making plans for us without including me on the process.
Story time
Shortly after we started dating she went out on some just wild things, hooking up with a random dude in gym parking lot, sending explicit messages to others, attempted to jump out of a moving vehicle, quit her job applied and got another and then quite 2 weeks before it started etc etc all happening in a very short amount of time (I found out about the cheating later but suspected it)
So we went to a Center for an assessment and such because I literally at the time was like “either this happens or else” essentially and well that’s when we found out about the diagnosis.
So long story to a short thought. Does it get better? I feel like anytime there’s a high amount of stress (no matter where the stress comes from) it’s always my fault or at least I’m made to feel like it is in the moment. But there’s so much trauma in her past that can be pointed to, including but not limited to emotional, mental, physical and sexual abuse and living with an addict (both partner and parent)
I’ve tried for so long to get her to go but the 1 time she did she admitted she lied to them the whole time. (Whole 3 sessions) but said she did it because it doesn’t work and they don’t need to know everything about her.
“I just wanted to get in and get out”
I’m rambling I’m sorry. But does it get any easier? It wasn’t awful when we were dating but about 6 months (18 months ago) into the marriage and it started to get way worse and now I’m exhausted.
Edit: wasn’t awful when she was taking the meds prescribed.