AIO for ghosting my boyfriend?
Me (20F) and my boyfriend (20M) have been dating for almost two years now (LDR) and we’ve had our ups and downs, but lately I’ve been thinking only about the downs.
Yesterday was his day off and we were spending time together on call, playing games and watching movies. Later into the night I heard him typing a lot and asked him who he was talking with, I was expecting him to say it was his best friend who he had called earlier, but he started avoiding answering. At first he said it was “a friend”, then when I asked which one he pretended to do something and told me to wait. When I kept pushing to ask who it was he said it was a friend from work, I pushed further and he said it was a female colleague.
This isn’t the first time he does this, whenever he is texting someone and I ask who it is, if it’s a girl, he will try to avoid telling me and spin around the question until I push him hard enough to answer. Usually is girl friends I know of that were in the same class as him, I don’t mind it much but don’t appreciate that he avoids telling me instead of being honest. This time tho, it’s a girl I never heard of, a brand new “friend” he has made. I got mad because I don’t understand why a coworker has to be texting him at 10pm, even tho he said “she was just asking what an air purifier was”.
I didn’t show him that I was mad but he caught it very quickly and I’ve been ignoring him since yesterday, he’s messaged me multiple times, either asking me what he did wrong, guilting me for punishing him over nothing, or playing the caring boyfriend and telling me to eat, drink and be safe.
I’d like to note that he’s done things in the past involving boundaries that made me lose my trust in him, so Im not just overthinking when nothing happened. Also his first girlfriend broke up with him at 17 because he cheated.
So, am I overreacting?