Husband won’t cancel football match scheduled on our egg collection date
My husband had a holiday planned to attend a football game abroad (3 day trip). We knew it might fall on our (first ever) egg collection date. I was okay with him going if it fell after the collection. He said that he would cancel if it ended up clashing, but now we’re pretty certain of the dates he is refusing to cancel. He’s saying he’s going to attend the egg collection but that he’s not ready to cancel the game yet. He says it’s a once in a lifetime experience.
I wanted him around in the days before/after the collection for emotional support.
I think he’s betting on the collection failing for some reason so he can still go - or that the collection will happen after his trip so he can get back in time.
If he went abroad but missed the collection we would lose our state funding as they have to take his sample at the same time. I’d have also gone through a medicated cycle for nothing, including losing money if I have to take time off work. I think it’s too risky to go abroad and come back a day before/the day of the collection in case his flight is delayed.
Has anyone been in this situation before? Should I just delay the cycle now before I’ve started medication so he can attend the game? I was mentally prepared to start this month but maybe it’s not worth the fight and the risks if he doesn’t make it back in time. I also think he will resent me for missing such a big game. He keeps saying he’ll do whatever I want, but he won’t give me a straight answer about cancelling. I just feel all over the place.
(Edited to say as it’s not private we can’t do the egg/sperm retrievals separately or freeze them to fit our schedule. We can however delay the cycle by a month as I haven’t started my medication yet and they do allow one opportunity to reschedule).