My girlfriend of 5 years i love dearly, she’s incredibly pretty and sweet, she however has gained quite a lot of weight In the last 2 years. Our sex life has suffered immensely, she keeps big bulky hoodies on during sex, can’t have the lights on during sex, and constantly complains about her weight. She also has basically completely stopped showing any interest in me attraction wise which is fucking with my self esteem as well.
When I suggest going for walks/hikes to get out of the house (I don’t mention weight being a driving factor in these activities) she gets snotty towards the idea and all she ever does in her free time is sit on the couch doom scrolling her phone barely speaking to me. I love this girl, I’m not perfect either and could lose a couple pounds, but her weight is a real issue in our lives that’s not just affecting her but every facet of our love life.
She doesn’t even eat a lot, like this girl I’d never describe as a big eater or anything of the sort but she won’t go get medical advice about her weight either. I’m just feeling drained and unhappy, I want to be with her but I feel like I have to sit here and watch her gain more weight and become increasingly more sedentary. I struggle with depression and self esteem myself so I’m empathetic to her struggles but it’s been years and 0 progress. Its starting to take its toll on me and I feel like an ass for admitting this here.