In-Laws *sigh*
Well, it finally happened to us!! The in-laws have finally expressed that my husband and I have turned a moment that "should be happy and exciting" into "something sad, painful, and hurtful"...
For context, my husband and I haven't told the in-laws and their family about the gender of our baby (their first grandchild) and the MIL has been pestering us to know, but we kept saying that we wanted everyone (siblings/grandparents/aunties/etc.) around to say it since she and the GIL took it upon themselves to tell everyone about us being pregnant so we couldn't even tell people in person. (We just got congratulatory texts from some people after they found out, not even from all of them, which is sad in its own, but whatever) And since they made it clear that gender reveal parties were a joke, we decided that we were not going to do one and just stick to telling everyone in person. Fast forward to yesterday, they invite us to the BIL's birthday dinner at a restaurant and they begin the questioning so we can tell them right then and there what the baby is (we don't want to during someone else's birthday) and my husband started making jokes about it and telling them that they had to guess first, but the MIL snapped and asked "why where we teasing her and that now she didn't want to know at all" and my husband replied with "because it is our choice" and that's it, that's what did it for her and she shunned us the rest of the night. Then, we get a lil' text when we get home from the FIL of how we have turned a moment that should be happy and exciting into something sad, painful, and hurtful and that instead of throwing the "its our decision" in her face, that we could've been like "we decided...because..." (basically correcting the way we should be saying things to her? Not that it would help anyways since she doesn't respect any choice that we have tried to/or made before). My husband is pretty upset that his family ruined this simple moment for him and themselves, and his parents and sister are fully playing the victim card and telling him that we are in the wrong, etc. Now he doesn't want to tell them at all and probably won't even have a baby shower since we don't have anyone else to share it with...
So yeah, rant to vent that now the news of the gender of our child has split the family because we won't comply on telling them how they want and when they want so the MIL can know first and spread it/share it through text to the rest of her family. This is great.