'33M' and '34F' Thoughts on this?
So I recently started talking to a guy I knew from middle school. And I thought the vibe was him and I starting to like eachother but the thing is, last night he was writing me and was horny. This is fine with me. Texting isnt that big of a deal. The thing is is that he has a female roommate who was advancing on him and over a hour of him talking to me, he proceeded to get head from her claiming he wished it was me. Now I dont have sex with people im not dating and understand that hes not mine so he can do as he pleases. It just hurt a bit. Maybe I read the signs wrong thinking that he liked me. Oh well I guess. Of course we are in our 30s. What are your thoughts on this. I've been single for 12 years. I think my standards are a bit higher than that. I'd like to remain friends with him but dont know how to get it across now that he did that, that im no longer interested in him. Do I just flat out say "you fucked up?" Or what? Then I ask him in the morning if he had any regrets. Had he said yes I think my opinion would gave changed a little but he said he had none. I feel like im acting like a cheated on girlfriend but we weren't even that far into talking to be such a thing. But he said he didnt have any. That hurt even more.
Update: I wrote him with your guys help.
"Just wanted to let you know I dont have sex with people Im not dating. Last night was interesting. I had hoped you decided to just yank it but you got head. I know youre not mine but I had thought the vibes between us were good. I think it'd be best if we just stop talking. Im looking for something different than this."
His response "Fare enough, sorry about that I can get out of hand from time, but I can understand, hope things go well in your world."
I think I dodged a bullet. Thank you all for your help.