I recommended my friend for a job at my company and now i kind of regret it, what do i do?
This is awkward to even type out but i need advice from people who don't know me.
Two months ago there was an opening on my team and my friend Jake was job hunting. I've known him six years, always seemed like a solid guy, so i put in a word with my manager and passed along his resume. He got the job. I felt good about it at the time.
It's not going great. He's been late a few times, missed a deadline last month that affected other people on the team, and last week he was supposed to run a meeting and just didn't show up until it was basically over. Didn't warn anyone. People had to sit there waiting.
The thing that's making me anxious is that coworkers have started saying things to me. Nothing direct, just like "your friend is still finding his feet huh" in a tone that's not really about finding his feet. My manager hasn't said anything yet but i work with her closely and i can kind of feel it coming.
I don't know what to do. Do i talk to Jake and tell him people are noticing? That feels weird becuase he's a grown adult and it's not my job to manage him. Do i say something to my manager before she brings it up to me? That also feels weird because then i'm throwing him under the bus kind of. Or do i just do nothing and wait and see what happens.
I vouched for this guy and now i'm just watching it unfold and i don't know which move makes things worse.