Am I [31F] crazy for trying to save my 8.5 year relationship with my [30M] boyfriend after his emotional break
2 weeks ago I \[32F\] went to stay at my sisters for a few days because my boyfriend \[30M\] needed space after going through an emotional break. To respect his boundaries I stayed away for 4 nights. I returned to our shared home a week ago, since returning he told me that he doesn’t want end the relationship right now but he doesn’t know how he feels or how to love. He feels angry at everything and everyone including himself. Since then we have made small progress little touches spending time together in small doses and eating together. We sleep in separate rooms. He even came to me for a hug the other day but I found a message to his college saying he and I was no longer together but it’s not a conversation we have had together. I cannot approach him on it but when I have asked if we are working on use and fixing this together he agreed. We have been together 8.5 years and own are home. I feel like he’s hiding who he really talks to and that he doesn’t want to open up fully but it’s so hard navigating this when he’s struggling mentally I want to be supportive but I don’t want to be a doormat. Is there something I can do more?