Housemate found my (23F) boyfriend (24M) on tinder - is he cheating?
I’m completely lost and have no idea what to believe. My housemate came home yesterday and told me that she has seen my boyfriend (24M) on tinder. This was sent to her by her friend who provided screenshots etc.
Obviously, this broke my heart. We have been together 5 months now but are serious and committed to one another and I really saw this going somewhere. Part of me is thinking, maybe he’s not using the account, his profile is just showing up because the account hasn’t been deleted. And the other part of me is thinking how could his account be showing up in the swiping pool after 5 months of being inactive.
I wanted to see if the profile was still there, so we downloaded tinder on my housemates phone and it was. We found it almost instantly (3 or 4 swipes in). It looked the same as what was screenshotted and sent to us already so I couldn’t tell if he had been active on it (no pics or bio changed).
I called him shortly after and asked him to come over. When he arrived, I sat on the bed and I just asked him if he had anything he needed to tell me, he said no. I asked again and stressed the importance of honesty in that moment and still, nothing. I passed him my phone with the evidence on it and asked him why he was using dating apps. He said he hadn’t been, that he hasn’t used the account since we started dating, but had never actually deleted it. I asked him to download tinder and pass me his phone which he did without hesitation. I could see that he had a match from 5 days ago and a few matches on the double date function that were recent, but no active chats. A few messages from girls over the past couple months but no responses from him.
He let me look through his Snapchat and his Instagram dms and still, nothing that looked dodgey. But still, the tinder thing is really bugging me… how long does an account have to be inactive for to stop showing up in the swiping pool? Do I believe him? I love him so much and don’t want to believe he would hurt me like that, but I need to protect myself and my own sanity.
TLDR; friend finds my boyf on tinder. He denies using the account since we have been together. Is he cheating?