r/tocatchacheater

I think my boyfriend is cheating and I would like help if anyone wants to see if he is. Give me a message if you would like to help!

I a 27 F, think my boyfriend 37 M, of a little over 1 year is messaging other women online, no idea if they answer him back or not but idk what to do. I only saw a glimpse but nothing really, but he’s done it before, messaging girls on their stories to say how pretty they are or whatever and lied about it. I’ve been wondering if i should message her myself and find out if they’ve been talking. What can i do? I can’t talk to him because he deflects and lies, then argues and causes a fight saying I’m making it up just to start a fight.

**TL;DR;** : what should i do in this situation?

My gf of 13 years, 5 kids together, has been absolutely horrible to me the last year. She went crazy on me for watching porn, snooped through my phone multiple times before I figured ot out. She went on about how its cheating and ive since stopped watching it.

She still acted like she didn't want me around, would bitch at me all the time, get bad when I would call her on my breaks or be home at all. I saw her run into the bedroom one night when I came home early and turn the light off before i came in at 12:30am. She has slept in the kids rooms a lot when shes "mad at me" and is very secretive of her phone. Recently I watched her snap chat activity and she was on it every 2 hours (the number one app used for cheating). A few yeats ago, she fb friended a guy she f*cked (she use him to cheat on her then bf. He was one of his friends), she didnt tell me. I found out and she lied her way through it. Ive uncovered more, chats have been deleted, she has searched dating apps (cant confirm she downloaded them, but I mean...), SHE WATCHED PORN AFTER SHE RAGED AT ME ABOUT IT, and followed multiple hot guys on Instagram afyer she told me not to follow girls early in our relationship. When I confront her about anything, she says "idk", "i dont remember", or says nothing. When things are said, she ends up screaming at me and leaving. Where does she go? Idk. She has a convenient excuse for EVERYTHING. Shows zero emotions like a phsycopath. Whats the path forward with kids here? Affording anything apart is impossible, but this is torture.

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Hi i am 33m married to 30F.

I want to make some kind of smart move to try to prove that my wife is lying, or find any evidence that she had an emotional or physical affair.
The problem is that I confronted her about some of the details too early, before I had any actual solid proof, and she deleted things (confronted about this too, of course excuses). . Several weeks have already passed, so she’s had all the time in the world to prepare herself, and I understand that.
But I also know that when people lie or cheat, they often have too many false details to keep track of, and it can be difficult to keep their story consistent.
I wanted to question her about a specific day a few months ago when she disappeared for several hours, and closed our find my iphone that we share, as well as about a man she had blocked on Instagram for no apparent reason, with no conversations between them that I could find.
My question is: what would be the best way to approach this?
I thought about asking her to walk me through exactly what happened that day, recording the conversation, and then asking her about it again on a different occasion to see whether there are any inconsistencies between her versions of the story.
I’ve already posted in other groups about how she panicked when I asked why she was taking an iPad to a birthday party where there would be alcohol. She yelled at me and accused me of being obsessively jealous, and as soon as I accessed the iPad, she disconnected it from the synced WhatsApp account.
I just feel like I have to find some way to prove what happened. There are so many other signs and suspicious details that I haven’t even included here because I didn’t want to make the post too long.
I’d really appreciate any advice that could help.