r/tocatchacheater

hi Reddit, I havent posted here before but I need advice on how to catch my cheating husband. I 37 female know my 44 husband is cheating on me. he works away for work regularly and uses local hook up sites for casual sex. Ive found him on a couple of these sites, he doesn’t have a photo uploaded but all the details point to it being him. a few years ago I found an email on his phone booking an appointment at a ‘massage parlour’ but he said he never went and I chose to believe him. since then I’ve found a twitter account linked to multiple casual non physical hook ups, such as message/ phone call requests etc. I confronted him and he admitted he set it up but never used it. again, I can’t prove otherwise. I’ve now found him on a site called casual Southampton and it’s the same info, ie name, the age he claims to be and location he works away. I planned on joining a fb page called are we dating the same guy Southampton but it looks like he has a second fb page using his first and last name (again to picture) and is also a member of the group, so I can’t even post a photo there. I was going to se d a message to that second account just with the words ’I know.’ but I know he would just ignore it and delete everything. I can get access to his phone but i wont know any login details. I’ve tried creatong an. account on casual southampton and sent him a message just posing as someone wanting to ‘chat’ but he hasnt replied. Please can the people of Reddit give me any of ice. I do t claim to be perfect but I’ve never cheated on him and our young daughter and I deserve better. I’m desperate guys 💔

I’m completely lost and have no idea what to believe. My housemate came home yesterday and told me that she has seen my boyfriend (24M) on tinder. This was sent to her by her friend who provided screenshots etc.

Obviously, this broke my heart. We have been together 5 months now but are serious and committed to one another and I really saw this going somewhere. Part of me is thinking, maybe he’s not using the account, his profile is just showing up because the account hasn’t been deleted. And the other part of me is thinking how could his account be showing up in the swiping pool after 5 months of being inactive.

I wanted to see if the profile was still there, so we downloaded tinder on my housemates phone and it was. We found it almost instantly (3 or 4 swipes in). It looked the same as what was screenshotted and sent to us already so I couldn’t tell if he had been active on it (no pics or bio changed).

I called him shortly after and asked him to come over. When he arrived, I sat on the bed and I just asked him if he had anything he needed to tell me, he said no. I asked again and stressed the importance of honesty in that moment and still, nothing. I passed him my phone with the evidence on it and asked him why he was using dating apps. He said he hadn’t been, that he hasn’t used the account since we started dating, but had never actually deleted it. I asked him to download tinder and pass me his phone which he did without hesitation. I could see that he had a match from 5 days ago and a few matches on the double date function that were recent, but no active chats. A few messages from girls over the past couple months but no responses from him.

He let me look through his Snapchat and his Instagram dms and still, nothing that looked dodgey. But still, the tinder thing is really bugging me… how long does an account have to be inactive for to stop showing up in the swiping pool? Do I believe him? I love him so much and don’t want to believe he would hurt me like that, but I need to protect myself and my own sanity.

TLDR; friend finds my boyf on tinder. He denies using the account since we have been together. Is he cheating?

so I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half now and I knew he had a few pictures of him and his ex on his Google photos, I would see them Everytime he was showing me pictures of his work (he always takes pictures of what he's working on so I can see the progress) even though he tried to swipe past really fast, I could still see it. I never said anything because that's his business and as long as it's in the past then ok. Well recently he's been talking about our future together, he says he loves me and wants to grow old together. I love him and I can see us growing old together also, however, he expressed how uncomfortable it made him that I kept a picture of my ex, and it was in my favorites album. The picture was of my son, myself, and my ex with a stunning view behind us, a great picture, but I didn't even think twice about it, I edited the ex out of the pic. one day he's showing me his most recent work and he scrolls too far and there she is, they are kissing. he quickly closes the app and changes the subject, but I'm kinda irritated, I ask him why I had to edit a picture with me and my son when he still has pictures of them kissing? after going around in circles with one excuse after another he basically told me he will not erase pictures of her. yet he swears he doesn't love her anymore, that he's in love with me. right....

So this evening he came home from work exhausted, we ate dinner together then he went to bed while I cleaned up. I come into the room to check on him and he's passed out, sitting up in bed with his phone in his hand. I smile a little because it touches my heart, those little moments... I come over to tuck him in and I set his phone aside, not paying attention to what he was watching. after he settles and rolls over I go to put his phone on the charger, like I have so many times before, but I freeze when I see the screen...

it's a video, I think it's just porn at first, until I see her face. it's a video of them having sex. it's an old one, I checked the details, but that's as far as I went. when I backed out, he had a complete album... I couldn't look, I wish I hadn't... I feel sick, and a little lost. I don't know what to do... does anyone have any advice? I know we need to talk, planning on it, but I don't know how to handle this. please help!

I have password for my gf’s snapchat but i dont know how to bypass the suspicious login attempt screen. Please help.

This guy can access any snap account you want. He will show you a video how he login to the account as proof before payment is needed. You can contact him on discord or telegram. I will post his discord link in the comments.

Telegram: Zizmo_1

Hi, looking for a guy that can access a specific account on Snapchat. (for Reddit: it is my personal old account).

Paying 150-250$ for the job, please let me know if you know someone that can help.

(Found someone already, thanks)

We do long distance and I feel that he has been distant lately can someone add him on snap for me to find out?

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