Am I selfish for wanting my husband to give up motorcycle riding?
He has been motorcycling since his teens, his parents do it still and it was something we did together before we had our toddler. We have been married a decade or so. But he gave up riding temporarily due to how much attention our child requires, and to be honest he is an IMMENSE help at home. He basically takes over the parenting after his work hours so I can take a break from being a SAHM. He gives so much and is an incredible dad.
I’m wondering, like-minded progressive moms, am I selfish for wanting him to give up his favorite personal hobby/pastime? He has always been responsible in wearing gear and safety, but that doesn’t account for what other drivers do. He’s been working on mods getting his bike ready to ride again this summer and it has me terrified we will lose him or he will be irreparably injured. He honestly doesn’t ever ask for anything for himself (tough for birthdays and Christmas) and the only other thing he really spends his limited time on is video games, but he is less interested now due to the time commitment for single player narrative games these days.
If it matters, he already got a life insurance policy just in case generally. But that’s clearly not as important as having him around and unhurt. If he doesn’t stop, or if you’ve been in a similar situation, how do I manage my feelings and stress?