u/HeadImpossible6571

So here what happened recently one of my friend said "my dating advice might seem like pink pill advice, as I say decenter men yet I am financially dependent on my husband"
She said on the lines like I don't have a choice in anything because I'm not working.
Another friend wants me to be grateful for my husband for all the freedom I have. Like the conditioning is so deep rooted, they make me feel like a bad guy for being grateful for what seems basic between me and my partner.

I was very hyper independent travel focused person and when me and my partner came together who is introvert and doesn't travel we have a understanding that I don't force him to travel and he doesn't force me not to. It works perfectly fine for us, we do few big trips a year together.

I am a feminist, but I don't want to be married or be in a relationship where I have to do 50/50 or without day to day courting. I know theses only matter between me and my husband. But it would be nice if my friends also don't force their conditioning on me.

A little more context: I don't preach trad wife, I don't preach be like me and my husband. I give dating advice when I am asked to, also my advice are rooted in my life experience, where after my 1st bf I never did 50/50.

I had 100k job and it was so mentally taxing and my body was at all time stress. If I have a prevailege and opportunity to take break. Why not?

I do want to get back to work force eventually not because i don't want to be financially dependent but because I want to for routine.
Also if he does for some unseen situations he becomes a ahitty person I have enough confidence in myself that I'll land on my feet.

The question is am i hypocrite? Just coz im enforcing my choice not to work does it not make me a feminist?

I do love him and appreciate him but he's not my whole world, he's a part of it. Why is it selfish? Why does love have to be unconditional?
Thats my rant. Thanks for listening.