Got married and thinking of divorce next day.
I am 34F got married recently.
I was so happy and felt good for this marriage I prayed istikhara too and got positive sign( Everything went smoothly ).. I did istikhara before marriage not afterwards. I was not sure about him and prayed istikhara prayer and asked Allah to make things easier if he is good for me if not remove him... why am I facing this thing when I genuinely asked Allah to guide me and make things easier if this is my destiny. It's weird getting divorce after one day but there were many things which I can't share what MIL n husband did in 10 hours.just sharing few. He never have guts to take any decision in this marriage. When we met he asked me to order as he can't do that coz he's too much of an introvert. I didn't mind. He never talked on call as he was shy but after marriage he acted normal way why he was doing all this just couldn't understand.
On day one my mother in law treated me so badly I couldn't even imagine how she was the sweetest person I met could change this much just after Nikah.
Whenever before wedding she used to come and Hug me, kisses me on forehead showing love and care how she'll treat me just like her daughter. But on marriage day after Rukhsati her behaviour changed 180. It was so shocking. She said when I arrived at her home and she go drink water from fridge why are you sitting like this and she was already drinking water from a bottle it has more water in it. In morning she asked me what I wanted to eat in breakfast gave two option I chose easier one but she said in one day I need to take care of you. Asked my siblings to come and take me we agreed for 4pm but she sent me away at 12 pm. Saying it'll be better. In this whole scenario my husband just stayed in room till he wanted to consummate marriage Which I I was not comfortable in a single day n after that he didn't come in my room. Even I left with my siblings. Not contacted after that. Before marriage he always said I'll take care of you etc. His father decreased my mahr too. But I thought it's not a big deal.
My husband he didn't said anything even my MIL was taunting me of things he just left that room. He's shy and introvert completely in control of his parents couldn't take decision without them. Before marriage he asked me to meet once and I agreed but he said to his mother n father I have asked him to meet. It created a bad impression on them that's what they said during wedding morning. Whatever he wanted to do in this marriage he didn't have guts to ask his parents he says I said. When I ask why he used my name he always say he didn't they must had assumed this.
After marriage in my walima they got so bad arrangement in a place where there was no.decent place to take pics or sit.. it looked like a shelter for animals. And table chairs were all looked so cheap n humiliating. And he and his family left before our guests left the venue. When I complaint this to my husband he said his father was alone and he was busy with work how could they do this all properly. My father was also alone but he managed everything fairly well. I got so angry and felt like crying how they treated this function coz there were no guests of his as they were living far or they made some excuse. I controlled myself and behaved pretty well didn't felt like eating so said no to food my MIL got angry started shouting and my husband didn't said anything. I came back with my parents. Even when my MIL creating drama he just stand there didn't said a thing.
Next day they were to come for bringing me back to their house but they didn't instead I called my husband after one day he said he wanted to come but my parents said they were not going to send me. I said there was no talk of this kind and asked him to come at my place so we can talk face to face clear things with each other. As now I am his wife and asked him to not involve parents and just come alone he agreed.
But I heard from someone who was in the middle that my husband told his parents n they talked in a dirty way the girl is calling him to meet. It felt so bad n humiliating once again. Also said I said no to cooking how can a new bride can cook n clean just in few hours. She didn't even asked me instead when she bought breakfast said I was not feeling well still I made breakfast for you.. I said to her I could have made it if you were not feeling good even after this they lied.
I am thinking of divorce he couldn't protect me from his mother's taunt n humiliation instead talking dirty way to his parents about me.. what's the point of this marriage when he's going to follow his parents order. He'll share intimate details too. As this was assumed but something I have heard it felt bad.
I am scared to go to their house as his first wife left but mother in law said she was having affair so they pushed her out n took her phone for proof. But recently the way she behaved it looks this is all their mistake.