AIO: Husband upset I don’t pay more in bills monthly
My husband (41M) and I (32F) have been arguing about finances; he has been complaining that I don’t put more effort into paying more for things. We have three children and I’m the one who pays for our two car payments ($835month) , diapers& wipes($100 month), groceries($500 a month ) , clothes for the kids , hygiene, ect. I also am the one who pays for health insurance which is about $1,100 a month.
He claims that the health insurance doesn’t count cause I don’t see the money but in my head if I didn’t have him on the insurance plan it would be about $400 less a month.
He’s eligible for insurance through his job but in his words “it doesn’t make sense for him to pay for it if I can”
He pays rent ($600[we rent a space from his mom]) storage ($350 a month ) and car insurance ($200) and phones/internet ($200)
Am I overreacting to not wanting to pitch in more ?
Edit to add :
Our rent is so low cause we rent a room from his mom who already has the house paid off so she benefits from the money.
I really am just trying to get others opinions if I should be tallying in the insurance rates cause it’s ridiculously high& that’s the one he argues most .
No this post is not fake or rage bait . I unfortunately did marry him for the kids sake.
I’ve tried marriage counseling and he refuses , he claims he doesn’t need to talk to anyone about anything; he will figure it out.
I budget groceries hard and make sure we don’t buy anything wasteful, also my parents help watch the kids 2x weekly so they have dinner over there.
I make $30hr / he makes $25hr : I do not get consistent 40 hrs a week and no opportunities for OT but he gets 40 hrs guaranteed a week with as much OT as he wants . I work day side and he works graveyards.