Is the right decision to always tell the truth?
I met her right after coming out of a bad relationship a year ago. We slept together as «friends» for months, and me not looking for a relationship was aired multiple times. Sometimes we got more romantic than what we should of but a certain distance was kept.
We are now together and things are fantastic. She is honestly such a good person that deserves the best. I adore her and are ashamed of what an idiot i was blinded by commitment and not seeing how amazing she is.
A month or so before we became a couple i had a one night stand on a night out. This was a weak decision on the end of the night. Emotionally i knew it was wrong but the decision to move forward was made that «maybe» the relationship was not going anywhere. I regret this decision and don’t like myself for acting on this «loophole».
I decided to act as this event never took place. The shame and guilt are mine to carry, not hers. I know from experience that this information only hurts. However, couple months into our exclusive relationship she starts to ask about the past and now i have to lie to her. And this fucks me up. I want to marry this girl. Do i tell her now and relieve myself of guilt to hurt her, but give her the respect of making the choice? Or do i take this info to the grave, and never do something as stupid as this again?
Technically i did not cheat as we were not exclusive, which is why i think it okay to act as if it did not happen. However, i hate lying. Should i take this as a man and bury the guilt, as it will do more damage than good? Or should i tell her even tho it means the end, or moving forward — but with her having to know this?