Husband (29) me (30). Thinks he's the best thing on this earth.
I have been wanting to separate from my husband of 5 years. He has a way of manipulating me into staying and making me feel like I should kiss the ground he walks on just bc he pays my bills. We are both LVNs but he wanted me to become a stay at home wife so I agreed I love taking care of my partner. I cook, I clean, I have his clothes laid out for him for the gym and for work. He does not have to move a muscle when he is home. Thats not even the worst of it, he is enrolled in the lvn to BSN program and I am doing ALL of his coursework. He doesn't even have to log in, everything is done for him all he has to do is work his 4 12s a week and pay my $1,500 worth of bills. Which is mostly my car and insurance. A car that he drives to work bc its our only car. I don't get my hair done, I don't get my nails done. I don't even leave the apt without him. Ive caught him texting other girls, I caught him subscribed to OF, his tiktok likes are full of thirst traps. He calls me outside my name, and I know I'm dumb but he made me believe I can't do better than him. He always says anyone would be happy to be in my position. He's obsessed with himself. kisses himself in the mirror, always checking himself out. I finally decided to leave and he said I am a used up 33 year old (Im 30) who nobody is going to want and that Bad b*tches turn 18 everyday and he can get anyone of them bc bad b*tches love a man like him to pay their bills. I am not ugly and I am in shape when I got with him 5 years ago, I settled, so idk how I ended up here.... but am I in the wrong? there is many reasons for me to leave but it comes down to how ungrateful HE is. Im doing his schoolwork while he brags about how he is about to be a "big BSN" "I'm really him" he says it all. Im fed up but I need some clarity.
tl;dr I do my husbands schoolwork and he thinks just bc he pays my bills I should do his schoolwork without complaints