I am not sure if the guy I like also likes me, even though my friends say it is blatantly obvious. What should I do?
Hello, this is a throwaway account because I don't want friends seeing this. I (18 f) like this guy (18 m) in my class (I know we are young but please take this seriously 😅). I've liked him since the beginning of the year, around September/October and it is now May. I didn't really know him near the beginning of the year, but my friends and I always thought of him as the 'quiet kid in the back of the class who was secretly planning to sh00t up the school' (a joke don't worry). Again, i didn't really know this kid until one day, about a month ago, he added me on Snapchat. We texted daily and he is my '#1 best friend' on there, lolll! Then, one day, I was complaining to him about how lonely I was because all my friends were busy. Then, he asked if we could call. Obviously I said yes and we called for 4 hours. Ever since we call almost every night.
Let me tell you a bit about him. I don't have a physical type, but my type is all about personality. They have to be funny, nice, cute, and smart (at least a little bit, loll). He is all of these things. He is really funny, we have the same humor which is dark humor. REALLY dark humor. He could say the most horrible, contentious joke ever about a serious topic and we would both crack up. He is really nice to me and everyone around him. Obviously he is a guy, so he is jokingly mean to his friends, but it's all in good fun. He is really cute, not only in the physical aspect, but in his mannerisms. He is smart, not grade wise, but in other things. His grades aren't terrible, he is a C average student, but he says they could be better if he tried a bit harder. All of this just makes me like him WAYYYYYY more, loll!!!
I'll tell you why my friends and family think he likes me. He doesn't talk to me in person, even though we talk over the phone almost every night for 2+ hours. I asked him about this and he said it's because he is nervous to talk to me because he is an awkward person. I am scared to talk to him in person because he is always with his friends. I cannot seem to ever see him when he is alone. He also sends me Instagram reels, mostly dark humor ones, but recently he has been sending me a few that are cute and couple-like, like ones that say, "send this to the prettiest girl you know" "the only thing I'd change about you is your last name" ect. When we call, sometimes we like asking each other random questions, since we have run out of topics to talk about. The other night, we were asking each other relationship questions. One of the questions was, "what is your favorite compliment to receive' and I said mine was that I was pretty. He responded with, "well, I think you're very pretty." He also sometimes flirts with me over text. The other night we were texting and he was talking about getting a buzz cut, he is one of the very few guys who can actually pull off a buzz, but I was saying he should grow it out because I do like his longer hair better. He said, "well, maybe I'll grow it out just for you ;)." I have also been talking to him about how I am going to be so lonely over summer break and he said, "oh, maybe we can hang out, like maybe go ice skating or something." I also asked him who he tells when he likes a girl. He said it was his best friend, who I have added on Instagram. His friend sent me a reel and asked why I liked it. I said, "oh, I sent that to _. He thought it was funny, lol." Then his friend asked if I liked him out of nowhere (sorry if this is getting confusing). I asked him why he would ask that out of nowhere and he said he was 'just wondering.'
Why I don't know if he likes me or not. I am a really big overthinker. I have made it pretty obvious that I also like him by sending him videos of couple ish reels that are like 'been waiting for you to ask me out' and the like. I have also buttered him up a bit by telling him that I find him attractive and things like that. Yet, he has not made a move. This makes me think maybe he is just looking for a fling or something. I have told him that in the past I have told the guys I like about my feelings. 'The worst that they can say is no' I have said. But the last few times I have told guys about my feelings did not go well. My last boyfriend, I asked HIM to be MY boyfriend. He said yes, but only because he thought it would be a funny joke with his friends. He basically only said yes to dating me so he can make fun of me with his friends behind my back. And the most recent guy I have told about my feelings didn't like me, but he convinced himself to like me and then led me on just to ghost me. He knows about both of these situations. He says that they were just jerks and I was WAY out of their league (which I agree with). School is almost out, it is Monday and the last day of school is Thursday. I'm not sure what to do. Any advice on how to approach this situation or what to do?