Am I doing enough? (18M)
For context, my earlier teenage years were largely defined by recovering from an eating disorder, working through childhood trauma, and unstable romantic relationships, at best. I was lucky enough to start college at 17 and since then I have been on the track to either graduate early with honors and start my PhD route in clinical psychology or stay the full four years while double majoring in psychology and human services before starting my PhD (I would either start that at 20 or 21). I’m planning to be a clinical psychologist with a specialization in eating disorders and trauma, and am currently a research assistant, resident assistant, summer RA, and interning at my local ER as a victim advocate, as well as interning at a local trauma therapy center. I am also lucky enough to have free housing during the school year and summer because of my RA/SRA positions, so I’ve been living on my own for free and have been saving every dollar I earn to buy my first house one day (I already have a decent car). I’ll also have the opportunity to study abroad in England next fall. After writing it all out, I feel stupid for even asking, but I’m a perfectionist and still feel like I’m not doing enough.
Side note: I have recovered from my eating disorder and fully processed my childhood trauma. I also dated a girl for 9 months during my first year of college (I spent most of my time with her and we even lived together, but even then I finished freshman year with 54 credits and a 3.93 GPA, and was also very involved on campus with friends, honors, research, etc.) but we recently broke up (it was essentially mutual) because of differing career and life goals. No bad blood or drama though and have remained distant friends. I have been working on myself too by journaling, additional therapy, lifting weights, and running, and staying busy with work and friends. This is mainly for myself, but also because I want to give the best version of myself for my future partner one day, as I dream of settling down with the right person and having a long life with them (and cats too of course, maybe children, I think I’d be satisfied either way).