u/Healthy_Brush_9157

I’ll ask clarifying questions because I’ve noticed a pattern that a lot of things within my current team are unspoken rules, a “follow the vibe” or my favorite “use common sense “ but when you use your own common sense then that’s wrong. So when I ask questions, people tend to add obvious things onto the question I asked.

I only wanted an answer pertaining to my question but they’ll add an extra tidbit at the end, something obvious, and it genuinely makes me think they think I’m stupid 😂

I wanted to ask and see if others have experienced the same.

The common denominator is always me. Start a new job, join a new team, meet new people. The result is always the same: somehow I am always the outsider. For most of my life I’ve tried hard to understand people and to make connections but it doesn’t work out.

People are very unpredictable and things are always hierarchical especially in a work environment.

I’m so burnt out and depressed. Trying hard to fit in when I’ll always be a circle among squares. I just am finding it hard to let go and accept myself and this reality. I always thought if I tried harder maybe things would be different.

I just can’t continue my life always being disappointed and just need to move on and know that I’ll never really meet societal expectations and people will likely never really understand me…