Advice/Help for knowing the realities of BDSM
I’m a 26 year old male who’s been into BDSM for years. I have lots of theoretical knowledge from communicating with people on Reddit/fetlife/online spaces, and reading genuine articles and psychological books regarding sexuality, fetishes, BDSM specific books, etc.. I’ve had a few online relationships, but in real life I’ve only ever been to some meet ups and had a spanking session with a sub.
I’m not so arrogant to claim I’m an expert and I recognize I’m inexperienced. However I want to change that. Even if it’s strange or weird, I would like to get advice from people experienced and knowledgeable about BDSM and who are willing to share that knowledge. My inexperience is a factor that prevents me from exploring this kink with other people and so I just want to know some of the true realities of what it means to be in the lifestyle. I want to understand it from all sides of the spectrum and get advice from doms, subs, switches, and everyone in between.
If you’ve read all of this, than thank you for your time. I know I didn’t really ask a direct question but please just drop the things you think are helpful. Written in the form of a question, “What essential advice would you give to someone who’s wanting to truly be a part of the BDSM scene?”