Only son, parents in late 50s, but I want to move out after marriage — feeling guilty
I’m 29, an only son, and my parents are in their late 50s. In our culture/family setup, it’s kind of expected that I’ll continue living with them even after marriage.
The thing is, I genuinely want my own home and space with my future wife after getting married. Not because I don’t love my parents — I do, and I’ll always support them emotionally and financially if needed — but I also want independence and privacy to build my own married life.
What makes this harder is the guilt. Since I’m the only son, I feel like moving out will automatically be seen as abandoning them. My parents aren’t elderly or dependent right now, but I know they expect us to stay together long term.
I’m worried this could also create tension in future relationships if expectations aren’t clear from the start. At the same time, I don’t want to spend my life making decisions purely out of obligation and regret not creating my own family environment.
Has anyone here been in a similar situation?
How did you handle the conversation with your parents, and did things eventually improve?