Just realized I’m the villain!
I want to thank everyone in this group. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had a light bulb moment from reading people’s comments. I have been reading a lot about the drama triangle, and how you need a villain, a victim, and a protector.
Growing up my dad was a scary dude and my sister and I protected my helpless mother. My dad has been dead for years now, and I’m now the “Bad Guy”. My sister has been caretaking my helpless mom and I’m the piece of crap daughter who does nothing for her and won’t give her money.
Fortunately, I’ve gone NC after a particularly vicious conversation with my sister about how horrible I am to mom. It’s like that meme from RuPauls drag race “Wait, am I the Villain?” Has anyone else had a realization that they are the new villain?