AITA for having very high standards for the friends I keep close but then complaining about not having any friends?
Growing up I’ve never had many friends, but when I did they weren’t the best. They were either fake, wanted something from me, or were just friends with me because they felt bad for me. Or they were absolutely terrible people. Over time I matured significantly, and I started to understand my value as a friend and how it’s gone unappreciated throughout the years in countless different situations. I started to gain an interest in psychology, and personal healing around this time. I slowly started to cut off most of my “friends” and started looking for new ones. I felt great, I felt like for the first time I valued myself rather than seeking others to value me. I’d consider myself a very extroverted person so I wasn’t scared to talk to new people to socialize, but as time went on I was having more and more trouble connecting with people because I felt like their priorities were so off. For me, I value being able to have deep conversations about life and mindset, being able to look at situations from other perspectives and not just your own, and just doing your best to be a genuine, kind human being. I feel that most people I speak to have a very superficial mindset and hold beliefs that I absolutely don’t agree with. Now, prior to me maturing I would sway my beliefs in a conversation to try and make the person like me more but time and time again I’ve learned that doesn’t quite work at all. So now I speak my truth, what I believe in. Often times resulting in a very awkward conversation or the other person just not wanting to talk to me. Most guys I’ve talked to only enjoy talking about girls, multiple, at the same time which I just find to be absolutely insane. I would consider myself to be s feminist and do care deeply about respecting women but got forbid I said that to a man? I’d be called gay and seen as less than the person I am for standing up for someone you are talking about behind their backs? There aren’t many, but most of my closest friends growing up and currently are girls, I feel like women are naturally more sensitive to certain things which I will forever appreciate. Sensitivity isn’t s bad thing and I hate when people make it seem to be. Now, obviously I wouldn’t want friends like this so I’m not upset about “them not liking me” or anything like that, I’m just concerned that I won’t be able to right friends for me. Let alone a fulfilling relationship in this generation of “two mans” and “fine shyts”. I’ve been alone, and I’ve had at least one good friend and I can confidently say that having at least one good friend will always be better than being alone. To summarize… I just moved to a new city and I’m not able to make any new friends because everyone sounds dumb asf and I don’t like that, but I also want friends. If anyone knows what I could do to solve this problem that doesn’t involve me turning into someone who sounds dumb asf as well I’d be all ears. WHAT SHOULD I DO?