AITA for telling the girlfriend of the man who ghosted me that he cheated on her with me?
Yo, everyone, I am definitely confused. I am Shaina(21F), and this happened few weeks ago. When I was bored I created a for funsies post about meeting or interacting to people who wants to have a relationship. Then I checked every guy that I wanna hang out with, and replied to all of them. Ash(23M) and Chris(25M) replied to my dms, and they are the ones I have been talking to since April. Ash, stating his intention to get to know me more and settled for being friends for full experience of the getting to know each other, while Chris, directly told me he wants to court me. Bored me, agreed to both. Then I notice Chris always put his chat head offline and is always late on replying, while me and Ash go on cute dates as friends, no malice and he is a respectful man. Then Chris told me after a week that he is not ready to be able to commit on the relationship, but HE UNFRIENDED ME FIRST. I knew it was a sketchy move, and it is stupid and unbelievable, but I never paid no heed and enjoyed conversing with Ash with new ideas and new dates to try.
Me and Ash celebrated our second week with a church date(still refusing to make contact or making moves out of respect). But after that he ask me about past situationships and I told him about Chris, then pulled out my phone and show him the Facebook. While using my other account I accidentally saw his myday and after that day, he sent a friend request. Then he came back like nothing happened and he is filling me up with assurance, comfort and support, but the comeback for me is not second chances, I want to know what he is hiding coz my instincts never lie. So about 3 days of talking again and I scanned everything. Then on the fourth day he ghosted me, again. Then guess what? I accidentally messaged someone on his fam. Then I am embarrassed yet I know he's hiding something.
Then I rechecked his account and LO AND BEHOLD, I found a girl with his name on her bio. At first I am full of doubts until I realized she is always reacting on his reposts. Then I decided to get ahead. Found 2 loyalty testers, one I hired for telling his gf about his messaging to other woman(me) and to test him. I told Ash about this and he was laughing at me for being careless and told me to blocked them, the gf and the cheater. The loyalty tester send me some screenshots of the cheater, INSULTING THE GIRL(whom he thought was me) called me a lot (body shaming for having PCOS/PMOS), and told me he would never really date me coz I have a flat nose. Well, since I have the most high self confidence and my ego is taking up the notch, I don't give a flying f. I did not read all of that coz I know he's insulting me because he got caught. But I am utterly devastated by the girl's reaction. SHE GOT ANGRY AT ME TOLD ME THE SCREENSHOTS ARE EDITED AND TRIED TO HUMILIATE ME. Even after the whirlwind of events, I still focused on my exams and let things be. After my exams, I checked and the post was deleted, the girl deleted the bio and the guy THANKFULLY took SOME ACCOUNTABILITY however, it's with a hint of gaslighting and stupidity that disgust me. Keep reposting on tiktok the he changed and outgrew the experience of cheating and he keeps gaslighting that he broke some promises and rules for the gf. Like dude?? It's your fault yo stupid and telling me this does not help with the redemption. Then 2 days ago, I prepped myself for sending the last message I have for the girl, stating I am very very sorry for being the side quest that I don't know she really exist and I won't want that SSOB back in my life. Also told her if she still wants her back, a snake maybe shed a skin but it still a snake and cheaters never change. For the conclusion I told her I forgave her for being angry with me and I'll pray for her recovery from this. Also I included that he told me something that make me wonder(he told me that his longest rs is 8 months) and maybe that's another story to find out(well, for her). I already blocked the guy every where, then the girl maybe deactivate or deleted her FB acc after I sent the message. Most of my friends told me it's the right thing for me to do while the other one (my therapist friend) told my impulsiveness is my mistake and not thinking before I click is the very wrong approach. So AITA?
Ps. I don't found any traces, either in IG or tiktok ACC he friended me there.
Pps. Yep, me and ash celebrated 1 month friendship by goin on a date, again. I really like this guy.