u/Heart2Heart_Adopt

Howdy, howdy everyone!!

Yesterday, I posted tips for birth parents for an ethical adoption. Today, I'm sharing a guide for Adoptive Families!

Questions to Consider:

• Do I feel this agency will advocate for my rights?
• Do I feel safe with and respected by the team?
• Do the promises of this agency seem unrealistic?
• Is this agency being transparent about fees?
• Am I getting the answers I need?
• Does the agency give me the amount of support I need?

Green Flags:

• Transparency in Fees and Timeline: There will always be unknowns in an adoption journey, but a good agency will try to give the adoptive family all of the information they have regarding potential medical expenses, adoption fees, etc. They will also try to keep you updated on the meeting plan and any post-adoption communication agreements.
• Clear and Consistent Communication with a Case Manager: The case managers over the adoptive families should take the time to get to know you and your needs as a prospective adoptive family to ensure that the best possible match occurs. They will also keep you updated on the needs of the birth mother that you will be building a relationship with.
• Counseling Throughout Your Adoption Journey: No matter where you and your family are in your adoption journey, support and education are always appreciated. A good agency will be there for you before and after placement to help you navigate any emotional challenges that may come along the way.

Red Flags:

• Ghosting after Failed Placement: Failed placements are a complicated part of the adoption process. For adoptive families, it can be incredibly hard due to the disappointment. That feeling of disappointment only deepens when their agency isn't there to support them afterwards and counsel about next steps. Nobody should feel abandoned during this time.
• Pressure Towards or Against a Decision: Life happens, and a placement that you may have felt so sure about at one time may not be feasible for you and your family anymore. You should always feel free to determine what is actually the best choice for you and your family.

Once again, I hope these brief tips help in your adoption journey!

Let me know if there's anything I missed!