My daughter is doing a research survey for a high school project. She is looking for responses from biological children of adoptive or foster families, any ages. This is close to her heart as a biological child in our adoptive home.
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Moderators, I hope this is allowed here.
I have friends that had their adopted child taken after years of bliss and peace. The child was / is traumatized and was put into the group home system with bad / dangerous situations happening to the child as a result. I thought this was a unique case but I have recently been told about another family that had the same thing happen. Is this something that happens more often than would be expected? They lived in a 'peach of a state' when this happened. The other case that I recently heard of was also in that same state that is 'always on my mind'. Anyone else have similar stories or personal experiences?
Hello everyone. We have our very first intake call with an agency at the end of June. I am trying to prepare for the call by writing down facts and information about us & then questions to ask the agency intake coordinator. Are there things you wish you asked right off the bat? What are important things to know about an agency right away? Who they work with, what states, how they go about the whole process, etc?
I tried to ask this question in another adoption sub but they chewed me apart right away.
We have a toddler who we cared for since birth as foster parents and have adopted him. Just by chance he looks surprisingly similar to my spouse and me, except that he has glowing blue eyes and we both have brown eyes. How do you respond when acquaintances who don't know your child is adopted ask about that type of heritable trait.
When they ask about finances what does it entail? Paystubs? Credit check? I’m assuming both but I’m wondering is it like a specific formula? Debt to income? I have a house, a husband, a savings but I’m a SAHM and he works. We both have great credit but don’t make six figures but we live in a very cheap place with very little debt and so yeah just wondering. If it changes anything I’m married 2 kids and want to foster to adopt.
I’m an 18 year-old woman from Florida who was adopted (at the age of 17) by a Mormon family in Utah. Up until recently, I was working as a CNA, but then I had a car crash which totaled my car and gave me whiplash; I still have my job, but it requires a car to do home visits. Now my adoptive parents say I can no longer live with them and say I have to leave the house immediately. I have no money, no car, a no place to go. My adoptive parents say I can just get another job and don’t seem to care what happens to me. I’m posting here in hopes of accessing any resources that this group may be aware of. Thank you.
I'm considering relinquishing my unborn daughter after I give birth due to mental and physical health reasons. I want to stay in contact with her, hopefully every week and still be in her life for as long as she allows me.I want to know what the experience has been for adoptive parents involved in open adoption with the birth mother.
Do many of you cut off contact with the birth mother after some time? This is what I am most afraid of. I don't have any drug or drinking problems, I'm well educated so I don't have those reasons for the adoptive family to cut me off
Also what should I look for in an adoptive family?
I'm based in Australia.
baka po may nag papa-adopt dito ng baby boy, willing to adopt po and mabigyan ng maayos na buhay ang bata, thank you
My life is a mess and I know I'm crazy for even continuing this pregnancy. I'm going through a terrible home situation. I don't believe I can keep the baby with me. What was your adoption like? What's open adoption like?
My wife and I are matched with a baby in Arizona, but live in Pennsylvania. Does anybody have experience in vetting layers in distant states?
Is there such a thing as a law office that would serve us in both states?
Additionally, we have an adoption counselor that's paid through my work. She recommended finding AAAA lawyers for everything. Is that recommended? Does that affect the price?
I know this a lot, but it's also something we want to get right, and ideally set ourselves up for another adoption in the future (if we can make it economical enough to save up again before we're too old and worn out to adopt another baby).
Mothers day is strange when you dont know your birth mom
We just finished the first part of our adoption home study process and have two more sessions to go, with the next one coming up in a couple of weeks.
Our social worker mentioned that the upcoming interviews and questionnaires will get pretty personal, including separate interviews, so now I’m curious what that actually looks like in practice.
If you’re open to sharing, I’d love to hear what your experience was like, what kinds of questions came up, and anything you wish you’d known going in. Mostly just trying to mentally prepare and understand what to expect.
Hello!
my husband and I are adopting a baby boy due in August, and plan on adopting a second child (we’re hoping for a boy) about 1.5-2 years afterwards.
what are some things you all have done to ensure your children are close, not just in childhood, but through adulthood as well.
thank you!
We will be renewing our home study within next few months.
In June, we have our home study visit. July is when our home study needs to be officially renewed by.
What does the renewal process look like? Is it as intensive as the first round?
And can you answer these questions (or some of these questions- even 1 would be super helpful for my qualitative research)?
What have been your experiences with your child's schools, teachers, etc.? Can you describe an encounter (or situation) with a teacher (or other staff member) that was especially positive (or negative)?
What are your family’s most important cultural practices or family traditions?
• Has your family shared your culture/traditions with the school? If yes, how?
• What are your hobbies, skills, interests, talents? Have you shared any of these with the school? If yes, how?
• What kinds of activities have you been a part of at your child's school? What kinds of activities would you like to be a part of at your child’s school?
• What kinds of things do you do at home to support your child's learning, or his/her success in school?
• Do you have scheduling issues, transportation needs, etc. that keep you from being involved at school, or with your child's learning at home?
• How does the child’s school/ teacher communicate with your family?
• Do you feel welcome at the school? What helps you feel welcome? What causes you to feel unwelcome?
• What would you like the school to know about you, your child?
• What is working well for you and your child in his/her class(es), or at school?
• What concerns do you have about your child’s academic progress, his/her class(es), or school?
• Would you like to know more about your child’s progress? His/her school? What would you like to know?
• In what ways does the school affirm your child’s/family’s culture?
• What are examples of ways your child’s culture has been ignored in school?
• What should the school be doing differently?
Hi, well, I suppose I can get some help or guidance for the slightly different adoption of a 16-year-old girl. I know, it may be old, but believe me, she is a very special and sweet girl, perhaps she is old but she doesn't look it; she is small and goes unnoticed as if she were much younger.
I need advice and agencies, please.
This will be our third Mother’s Day since she started calling me “Mom”. I was really hoping this year would be different, as we’ve never spent a Mother’s Day together. She usually sends me a text that says “Happy Mother’s Day, Mom”. She has a lot of trauma around mothers, and I know it’s not her job to celebrate me. I’m just sad.
How many inquiries did yall do until you were matched with a waiting child? One person on here uses the same agency as we are and was told 300ish. That number just seems super high, so I wanted to get some perspective. Thank you!
Hi there, my husband and I reside in Canada and are looking at our options for adoption. We’ve been told that adoption from the US is likely to be faster (even as Canadians) due to the higher number of children available for adoption in the US than in Canada. If any Canadians on here have experience adopting from the US, I would really appreciate hearing from you!