u/HeartHungry2548

It’s baffling to me that not all, but a lot of, women who say they like to read only read smut books. Smut is not literature. Saying you like to read makes people think you actually enjoy consuming some sort of fiction or nonfiction content for the sake of learning, growth, or development — not just to get yourself off.

I mean don’t get me wrong, enjoy your kinks. But I don’t know what would be the point of you saying that you like movies and then I ask what have you been watching and you give me a list of some After dark Cinemax flicks. It is so odd and it’s definitely a double standard.

If a man told you he spends hours every day watching porn, you would think he is some sort of pervert with a porn addiction. I’m not sure when did it become completely acceptable to flaunt this proudly as a literary activity. It’s definitely not, you just like to read porn.

I’ve mostly dated from the apps. And it’s true that most people you meet there are just terrible in one way or another. I’ve also tried approaching women in public and I would get a no or a fake number, I haven’t tried that in the last ten years but I am pretty sure if I do now it’s highly likely that I will be called a creep.

Going to do hobbies and classes can be good but a lot of people just go there to socialize and not to date. If you do try something it might make someone uncomfortable and you might be called a creep. I absolutely refuse to pursue anything at work. So how exactly did you find your partner?

Edit: Thank you everyone for your responses.

For those who said do it through friends, what if someone just moved to a new city?

For those who maintain that if you don’t say anything creepy you won’t be called creepy, that’s fair and it makes sense but I am seeing posts about men complaining that they would just get called a creep if the woman is not interested.

Personally I just don’t like the in person approach anyways, the only time I would do it is if I see a woman reading a book I like or overhear her talking about something we have in common otherwise I am not interested in talking to someone just because they are attractive.