General dating vs looking for a Dynamic - Doms, do you like when a potential Sub is engaged or do you prefer to chase?
I'm female and single after 16 years and I don't know what I'm doing when it comes to dating 😅 The general dating advice for ladies seems to be: don't get too engaged, don't always message first, don't reply too quickly, don't change your plans for him etc. Apparently it's something biological that men need to chase.
This goes completly against my nature - if I like someone I'm very engaged, I enjoy daily contact. I can be quite chatty and I'm a master oversharer 😂 so I try not to lead too much since I identify as sub, but I'm very engaged and responsive. I don't like playing games and one of the reasons I chose to explore BDSM is because people who are really into it seem to be more emotionally intelligent and honesty and open communication is of the highest importance. So it feels counter intuitive for me to be more reserved on purpose.
I have a question for Doms - if you were getting to know a new sub, would you be turned off by her being very engaged in the conversations and initiating contact? Or would you feel like she's stepping on your toes? Do you feel the need to chase a sub, or on the contrary?