AIMS Wedding Drama
Hey y’all! Recently found yall from ATWWD and loving it. Anyways to jump right into it, my fiancé(31 M) (we can call him S) proposed to me(28F) (B) at the end of March this year. My brother (26 M)proposed to his girlfriend(24F) (now fiancé) at the beginning of May. I started dating my fiancé August 2023, my brother started dating his finance in November 2023. Are we seeing a bit of a pattern? Before my brother proposed to his fiancé (T), I was very excited to get wedding planning underway. S and I talked and we don’t want to be rushed or too stressed so tentatively planned to have the wedding spring 2028 (I’m applying to grad school this year so it’s all kind of up in the air). We were hoping my brother and T would be getting engaged next year so we could have a good bit of time between the two. Also selfishly didn’t want them to copy our wedding details and plans. Now I’m feeling like it’s not as special due to my brothers engagement being so close to mine. My parents friends have been joking about having a “double wedding” which is the exact opposite of what I want. I don’t want to be grouped with someone else even if it is my brother who I love very much. Now I’ve stalled my wedding planning in waiting to see what they are going to do. Well a week ago T says over family dinner that she’s planning on having their wedding spring 2028 because her friend is having her wedding winter of 2027 and quote “ I know some girls get weird about having their weddings close together”. Like hello?? How about your future sister in law. They did know we planned on having it spring 2028. I talked to my brother separately about this and being a boy says well I mean it’ll be fine if we space them by a week. Am I being selfish in wanting in my wedding and the festivities that come along with it completely separate? Am I missing something obvious here? I’ve talked to my friends and they’re at a loss of advice to give. I didn’t plan on having a super long engagement but now I don’t know what to do. Any advice appreciated.
-B