Help with younger sibling
I’m 25F and have a younger sister (19F). I live on my own now, but I recently went on a family trip and it really made me realize how difficult the dynamic has become.
My sister is extremely disrespectful to both me and my parents. She refuses to help with basic things like setting the table, cleaning up, chores, or even letting the dog out. If my dad asks her to do something, she’ll say things like “you do it.” She also expects my parents to pay for everything, complains if we don’t go out to eat, and then orders the most expensive thing on the menu when we do.
What bothers me most is how much my parents bend over backwards for her. My dad will literally take time off work to spend time with us, and she’ll ditch the family for friends. But my parents are so conflict-avoidant that they rarely call her out on her behavior.
I also feel personally hurt by how she treats me compared to my other sister (22F). She constantly posts about how close she is with her, copies her interests, and acts like I’m somehow beneath them. Even growing up, she seemed dismissive of my accomplishments and interests.
At this point I don’t know what I’m supposed to do. I feel embarrassed even asking this at 25, but I keep feeling like I need to step in because my parents won’t stand up for themselves. Has anyone dealt with a sibling like this, and how do you navigate it without destroying the family dynamic?