Career vs choosing relationship
Been in a committed relationship for over 10 years, 7 of those were sponsored by LDR! The first 3 years together were like movie love and we unconsciously built the foundation of the relationship because during the 5th of LD shit went way down and we were still able to hold on to each other despite immense pain.
Took us the past few years to recover a little bit from all that suffering and we got married this year.
Been married for 3 months and we’re in separate continents with a 5 hour time difference.
Last year we had a few months together before I had to move due to visa issues. Since I moved back home (we’re from the same country) some unexpected career paths have come knocking on my door even without me actively seeking. Last year I was done with a job in a country nearby my partner’s, packed my things and moved into my partner’s house because I was so frustrated of LD and didn’t wanna do it anymore. Actively didn’t apply to jobs anywhere except my partner’s current base country. Since these said opportunities came my way, my partner is more into me pursuing them than myself. I’m so tired of missing them but I’m also apprehensive about not utilising the career that’s come my way.
I’ve lived by the book, all studious and nerdy, got 3 degrees with plenty of merit from around the world but I’m genuinely tired of having to live away from the person I love the most!! We’re 32(f) and 34(m) and we don’t want kids but we love and miss each other so much so that my partner thinks I might resent them or myself if I don’t take the opportunity that life’s presenting me with!!
What would you do?
I’d rather take advice from someone who’s been in such a position than someone who’s just been together forever in their relationship because LD is a different ball game altogether!!!
Appreciate any help, TIA _/\_