Please help me
I’m writing this because I genuinely want to experience love and build something meaningful with someone.
All my life, I’ve mostly been the “ideal son” type focused on studies, career, responsibilities, and doing what was expected of me. Because of that, I never really dated anyone. Now I’m 24, working in Bangalore, and for the first time I’m actually trying to put myself out there properly but honestly, dating apps haven’t worked for me much.
My mom has started talking seriously about marriage, and I’ve accepted that arranged marriage might eventually happen. I don’t think that’s a bad thing either. But before I completely leave it to fate, I wanted to at least try finding someone on my own. Maybe experience real love, a genuine connection, and build something naturally with someone who actually wants something meaningful too.
I know looks matter, and I’m working on myself there as well. I powerlift, so I’m built broad and muscular with a higher body fat percentage right now, but I’m cutting and getting fitter. But apart from looks, I honestly feel like I have a lot to offer as a partner.
I can cook, clean, do household chores, drive both car and bike, I’m calm, patient, emotionally available, honest, and a really good listener. I don’t drink, smoke, party, or do drugs, so I never really met people through that scene either. I love dogs, and somehow dogs love me back too.
Sometimes I genuinely wonder what girls actually look for in a guy beyond just looks, because I feel like I’ve spent years building myself into someone dependable and caring, yet I still struggle to connect with someone romantically.
So this post is partly me trying, and partly me asking honestly what actually makes a guy attractive or relationship-worthy to girls apart from looks?
And if any girl here is looking for something genuine, meaningful, and long-term, feel free to DM me.
Also, to the guys reading this if you know someone in your circle who might vibe with a sincere, decent guy trying to build something real, help a brother out.
Even if you’re committed or married and happen to know someone who’d genuinely connect with someone like me, I’d appreciate the help too.
And thank you if you read till the end