"You will find someone"
Hello, first time posting here.
I came to think about something I wanted to share. I think that for a lot of people myself included, we have in some ways tried to talk about romance with parents or other adults during our childhood and have heard variations of "It will happen" or "You will find someone" or even "Everyone has a soulmate".
I'm thinking this very particular kind of teaching can be incredibly destructive when coupled together with other mental struggles such as depression or anxiety during childhood. I believe it fosters a sense of "entitled destiny", the whole idea of "This is normal so therefore it will happen".
While I think this idea is very publicized with media such as movies, books, songs etc, I havent really heard much be discussed about the parents role in this.
While unintentional, it comes off as handwavy and I do think some parents are not equipped to handle talking about romance and instead talk about it as a natural part of life. While sure romance is natural, its not a given. We breathe air to live which is natural but it is not applicable to romance as in "I am a person therefore I WILL be with someone".
It removes autonomy from other people saying that, for example if I have a soulmate somewhere, then its not an autonomous thing to fall in love with someone but instead founded upon the idea of destiny and entitlement.
As with everything I do not think the phrase "It will happen" alone will cause someone to believe they are entitled to have someone however I havent heard alot of discussions about its psychological effects. Id be happy to hear what you guys think.