r/PsychologyTalk

When I walk, run, or even just tense my muscles, I can get completely lost in stories in my head. It's not just normal thinking or imagining random stuff, it feels like there's a whole world in my mind. I can see what is happening, hear sounds, follow the story, almost like I'm watching a movie that I can control.

The faster I walk or run, the stronger it gets. When I move faster, the world in my head becomes clearer and easier to get into. Sometimes I just walk around my room in circles for 40 minutes. I have several different imaginary worlds with different stories, characters, and situations.

I don't do this around other people because I know it looks extremely weird, I only do it alone in my apartment, where I feel comfortable. I can control it, I know it's my imagination, I can stop when I need to and I don't lose touch with reality. But while I'm doing it, I can feel very disconnected from the outside world and fully locked into the story.

What the hell is this called? I'm curious what you think about it and whether anyone here has experienced something similar.

these days i have been noticing a pattern so i was curious as to why , especially with teenagers.
im not talking about just factual information as i feel these days people just say thank you and move on but i mean something deeper like emotion or something a bit opinionated. i noticed most teenagers fights are somewhat petty due to being stubborn
for ex: “you were mean to me and threw my name under the bus” “it was wrong of you to dm my old crush” “i told you not to do __ and you did it anyways” i notice lots of times it leads to the other person getting defensive and not wanting to apologize even though the initial person just wanted to confront the issue + receive an apology

this isnt a personal story but something im genuinely curious in I also dont think people not wanting to admit they are wrong or getting defensive makes them a bad person either as im sure this is something deeper

I always fear i missing some perspectives behind while making decisions or opinions

And a constant fear of i may be wrong and thinking narrow

In the old days it was very easy to get away with this before cellphones because there was legit no way to know for sure how busy someone is since contacting people required them to be at home.

But with cellphones and their feature to let you know when someone has seen your texts you can't get away with that so easily and yet people still think you can just ghost people with ease.

Wouldn't it just be easier to just outright say you're not in the mood to talk or even just point blank make it clear you find someone's attempts to talk annoying and to just leave you alone???

Why are people now against just being direct and honest?

I have never experienced getting cheated on, but things that were close to that, which ended up screwing me over and it always took so much to regain myself back. For me, getting cheated on feels like having your worth abolished.

The thing that I don't understand is how people can still open themselves to others after experiencing that, still having the energy to explore new people and give love another chance.

Personally, I'd think that if someone was able to cheat on me, others can absolutely do it to me. I don't blame one man and think another man would treat me better. And especially to the other woman, I would think my new man would leave me for her too, like the one before. I would think she has more value than me, the way she was chosen over me. That it's not any man's fault, but her for being better than me in some ways, making all men going to choose her when given the option.

Genuinely, how do people cope with that?

Hi everyone i'm 20 year's old , i'm a nursing student,and i'm so interesting about psychology topics soo i'm looking for friends to share informations and talking about psychology

Shy?

Why do people shy?

Does it has any significance to it like fear

As fear keep us or help to keep ourselves away from danger

What about shyness

What is it for

Does people feel shy only cause they feel inferior than other people?

Or

Does it has any significance

Our minds don't panic in loud, busy, open places. They panic where there's too much silence.

Think about a dense forest. Trees blocking the view in every direction. No sound. No movement. In that kind of environment, the brain doesn't relax, it does the opposite. It goes on full alert. Because it can't predict what's coming or where the danger might appear from. The unknown puts it on edge.

Now think about a person who tells you exactly how dangerous they are. Who announces what they're capable of before anything even happens. In reality, that person is already looking for attention. Somewhere underneath all that noise is a fear of being taken lightly. And because they've handed you all that information upfront, your brain doesn't treat them as a serious threat. It knows what it's dealing with. It knows how to respond, what to say, how much distance to keep. It has enough to work with.

Then there's the other kind of person. The one who says nothing about themselves. Who listens, watches, and rarely reacts, even when pushed. These are people who can't easily be manipulated, who don't show anger through words, who only move when it actually matters. And your brain around that kind of person feels exactly like it does in that quiet forest. It doesn't know what they're capable of. It can't predict the next move. So it prepares for the worst. And that preparation is where the fear comes from.

That's the real reason silent people feel more dangerous. It's not about what they've done. It's about what your brain can't rule out. When you can't make a prediction, the mind locks into alert mode, and suddenly every small thing feels like a warning sign.

The unpredictability does all the work. The silence doesn't need to threaten you. It just needs to give you nothing. And nothing is somehow always enough.

As you get older it feels people start looking for excuses to dismiss you in favor of others who provide what they want that you don't, and if you don't behave specifically in ways that they would like it increases the chances even further.

What causes this?

بحس اني بتأثر جدا بالكلام المعسول اول ما بفتح ليه مجال و يعني تقريبا عمري ما حبيت هي الفكرة دائما ان شوية كلام بيعجبني خصوصا لو special ليا .

يعني لو الشخص ده مش لطيف مع كل الناس و بيكلمني أنا بطريقة معينة بقلب كتكوتة حتي لو تصرفاتي جامدة ف أنا جوايا بتأثر ف محتاجة اتعالج من ايه؟ الواحد نشأ في بيئة فعلا جوع بس عمري ما اتأثرت بأي حاجة على سلوكي إلا مرة عملت موقف معين من غير ما أفكر و متعتبرش غلطة حقيقية بس سقطت في نظر نفسي أن في حاجة ممكن تأثر عليا أو على قراراتي.

im suddenly curious bcus i see a lot of tiktok comments about criminals needing therapy instead of jail and im not denying that but im just curious how would therapist deal with these cases ? people who had serious ill intent behind their actions ?

i know often times in therapy people are told “its not your fault” or “you reacted this way bcus of this” i was curious if therapist say the same things to criminals as well how do they approach this type of situation ? not hating on it im just genuinely curious or interested in knowing about it

At some point being "the new girl" stopped feeling stressful and it became a performance.

I had many friends. And yet somehow, none.

At 30 I finally see the pattern clearly enough to name it. Anyone else grow up like this?

Yes or no, and why did you say yes and why did you say no.

I'm not saying people with limerence are inherently dangerous, and most femicides have clearly nothing to do with limerence.

But I could never understand when sometimes a young man with all his life ahead and no past violent behaviours kills his girlfriend who's trying to break-up with him. Often the relationship didn't even last that long and there's a case currently in my country where this guy basically never dated the girl who was his neighbor; they exchanged some texts, she rejected him and that was it.

A lot of feminicides often involve older couples, very isolated, he's been violent for a long time etc, I'm not saying that's understandable, but I can get the psychology behind that. But when I hear about a 19/20-year-old destroying an innocent girl's life and his own life for a relationship that would have never lasted and that was just beginning anyway, I get so confused. But now that I'm familiar with the concept of limerence, I think it makes more sense.