It's usually I just don't find you attractive and that's it. Why is it people don't wanna list clear reasons and explanations behind the lack of attraction?
Like wouldn't it be useful information to the person being rejected to address any flaws they could have to improve for later interactions??
I'm noticing more and more people specifically the ones in relationships around me are becoming distant and to themselves more and more and just focused on low effort conversations and activities.
Like an idea and a person can be one and the same it's just a matter of if your idea of a person is accurate or not I would think.
Especially the ones who either A. Feel lucky to have even found someone even if they know it's likely to be temporary or B. Were depressed for a while and despite that they managed to find someone.
Would you say it's also a red flag that if someone is asked for details about their partner and they get all defensive and say it's private?
As a guy I never saw the point of asking for nudes at all specially from women you haven't already had sex or from women you're unlikely to have sex with. If a girl directly offers their nudes herself that's one thing but asking for nudes just seems so weird to me.
Why would you degrade yourself by asking for nudes and settling to just masturbate to a girl when there's other means of self gratifying like 🌽 and only fans?
As a guy I never understood the point of asking for nudes from women you're not having sex with or WILL be having sex with soon. Now I see nothing wrong with a girl offering them herself but men asking for them is what confuses me.
It's like wouldn't you rather actually have sex with the girl instead of goon to their pictures?
I understand within all walks of life there are those who are considered winners and those who are considered losers. Not everyone is going to accomplish what they actually want in life and there's bound to be those who can't handle that weight which can lead to extreme decisions.
But it would appear that those who are deemed as less are victims of shame and bullying, and I always took that to be a method of encouragement to be better but in reality most people just use them as stepping stones to validate themselves and I always wondered wheres the logic in that?
Reddit seems to get it the worse with how especially easy it is to exploit the karma system to restrict certain conversations and people from being able to use the app.
Plus when did people online start preferring to just talk crap about each other, post just to complain about a topic and be hateful than have actual conversations and discussions regardless of how uncomfortable they may get and regardless whether or not you can come to an agreement?
That last part is what confuses me the most, it's like to some people if you're unable to come to an agreement than it means you're not listening or just arguing just to argue.
And women in particular are the ones who REALLY tend to want to be in denial that they're the ones who usually determine if the sexual tango happens.
Like when it comes to mutual hetero-sexual consent, not situations where a woman's consent is ignored, the men are the ones who USUALLY have sexual interest first and are the ones trying to earn the woman's permission to have their desires accepted but for some reason people refuse to acknowledge this.
Like it feels like most people nowadays care more about what you can get out of someone by associating with them versus sincerely liking someone.
Yet women will justify one night stands or casual sex with absolutely no issue at all but the idea of having sex with someone out of pity or just feeling sorry for someone is such an offense.
Or is it something where some people are just doomed to never get their sense of taste and smell back?
What I mean by that is do you think that women are unlikely to get into relationships with a man if his friends aren't respectable or in extremely cases severely unlikely to get into relationships with men that don't have any friends period?
If so would this mean that if a man wants to get into a healthy relationship he'd have to have at least a decent circle of friends?
I've had it in my head that once you graduate college people are going to have very different standards to what activities they're willing to do with friends. Gone are the days of casually getting together to watch movies, play video games, and replaced with....all I can think of is going to bars or going to each other's houses to drink and play cards.
Like what exactly do y'all do for fun now that you're gonna think you're too old to do Alot of the things you used to enjoy?
It feels like at a certain point especially once you hit the age where everyone starts going through the depression over lack of accomplishments phase or getting married and having kids the tones among the circle of friends start to change drastically.
How do you maintain friendships when chances are high you're gonna be judged more on what you can do for the other?
And how come when someone tries in a public space or even online you're likely to have people try their damn best to dismiss it and use exceptions to support it?
For example if you're a virgin past 25 women are going to have expectations on your sexual experience and if they discover you have none they're likely to come to bad conclusions as to why that is and use it to justify their lack of interest. Even virgin women are likely to reject a man for being a virgin that long.
Plus the strong regrets you're likely to have from waiting too long, people also don't wanna talk about that, why??
Despite the fact that women tend to be primarily motivated to get protection and financial benefits from men and yet men are likely to be accepting of this(some begrudgingly accepting)?
To me personally there's no passion and enthusiasm to be had with simple short conversations. It's on the same level as small talk which is basically just polite conversation.
Let's be 100% honest here a main motivation for men to interact with women they are already attracted to is to see if they're sexually compatible asap.
Yet if a man is actually upfront about this then chances are high a woman will use their honesty as an excuse to reject them on the spot. As a result men are forced to have to play games and pretend that they're interacting with a girl for deeper reasons than they actually are.
Which I get it to a certain extent I really do, cuz a woman has to feel comfortable with a man to a certain degree even if they're attracted to them, it's literally a guys job for him to stimulate a woman's emotions enough for them to justify sexual consent, it's the expecting men to be vague or dishonest about their intentions that always confused me.