u/lovelypas

these days i have been noticing a pattern so i was curious as to why , especially with teenagers.
im not talking about just factual information as i feel these days people just say thank you and move on but i mean something deeper like emotion or something a bit opinionated. i noticed most teenagers fights are somewhat petty due to being stubborn
for ex: “you were mean to me and threw my name under the bus” “it was wrong of you to dm my old crush” “i told you not to do __ and you did it anyways” i notice lots of times it leads to the other person getting defensive and not wanting to apologize even though the initial person just wanted to confront the issue + receive an apology

this isnt a personal story but something im genuinely curious in I also dont think people not wanting to admit they are wrong or getting defensive makes them a bad person either as im sure this is something deeper

i have seen countless of videos and stories of a domestic abuse victim who received the restraining order instead of the person who committed the act especially couples who get divorced i see often times one person doesnt want to sign the paperwork but then serves them with divorce papers and a restraining order and im curious as to why ? is it a power move ? is it to perceive yourself as the innocent one instead ?

i would like to know others thoughts to this
i think for the most part they are really cute and sweet and i love the interaction and connections it can bring !! however i see people touching the idols (the cheek face or bicep) and it made me curious on this can the idols say no , what do they do if they are uncomfortable , will the staff step in ? im not mentioning this to hate on anyone specific but i just wonder as this is becoming a more common occurrence so its a bit worrying for the idols safety or boundary when ppl touching them

my dog is a 3yo chihuahua and about 4 pounds and im worried about her getting spayed soon…how dangerous is it really ? is it more dangerous since she’s smaller ? i think maybe its my nerves getting the best of me and im also sad about the pain she will have when recovering how can i make sure she is most comfortable ?

im suddenly curious bcus i see a lot of tiktok comments about criminals needing therapy instead of jail and im not denying that but im just curious how would therapist deal with these cases ? people who had serious ill intent behind their actions ?

i know often times in therapy people are told “its not your fault” or “you reacted this way bcus of this” i was curious if therapist say the same things to criminals as well how do they approach this type of situation ? not hating on it im just genuinely curious or interested in knowing about it

im suddenly curious bcus i see a lot of tiktok comments about criminals needing therapy instead of jail and im not denying that but im just curious how would therapist deal with these cases ? people who had serious ill intent behind their actions ?

i ask this bcus in my experience or my friends experiences (non criminal) with therapy we are often told “its not your fault” or “you reacted this way bcus of this” i was curious if therapist say the same things to criminals as well how do they approach this type of situation ? not hating on it im just genuinely curious or interested in knowing about it

these days i have extreme anxiety about my past friendships whether we just grew apart or had a reason for the falling out i cant stop blaming myself for each and every part

i feel like i lost more friends than the average person and tbh i cant tell why and i cant tell what im doing wrong (ill take any advice i can to be a good friend)
usually its just them distancing themselves from and stop replying. when i notice this starts to happen i ask them what’s wrong and if i did anything. for one of my most recent major friend loss (couple years back) they always told me nothing is wrong and theyre just busy and will reply when they can, so i would keep texting more (usually texting my friends i spam text or in multiple messages) but i noticed they would post saying they wish people would catch the hint, if someone doesnt reply after a couple days it means they want nothing to do with you, i noticed they would respond to others like our mutual friends so i asked them if this was about me bcus it was like our situation and they said no but continued to make another gc without me i assumed it just “died down” until they posted a screenshot of the new gc and said “iykyk” i ended up messaging them long paragraphs apologizing saying im not sure what i did wrong but whatever it is im extremely sorry and i wish they would tell me so im able to apologize for it correctly and i really appreciate them and our friendship so i want to make things better between us.

however most blocked me after this and so i asked the person who didnt block me what happened they said i carried a lot of emotional baggage and was too sensitive, yes its true im sensitive but throughout the friendship i would ask them if its okay for me to rant or tell them stuff and they would always say yes and to never apologize for it bcus thats what friends are for.

i check their pages daily and wish i could just start all over with them bcus i miss them , how do i stop this?

my brain gets angry to try and protect me by saying it’s not my fault they didnt communicate, i shouldnt be friends with people like that, i shouldnt be friends with people who do xyz (there was some issues or uncomfortable situations i had with my friends that i would communicate) why was i the only one who got blocked for this when other people would do it more often than me? is someone exaggerating the situation to make it so the others agree with them? i ask myself why can i keep my best friend of 10 years and my other friend group since i was 9 but i couldnt keep them , they mustve been the “issue”
i feel so evil and disgusting whenever my brain puts those “protective” thoughts in my head. how can i stop this? deep down i know everyones chemistry and compatibility is different , people respond and communicate differently which may be better for each other

overall i don’t feel like a good friend and although this happened years ago i feel like i dont deserve the friends i have now, i dont deserve the good things i experience, i dont deserve the love im surrounded by. i dont know what to do or how to fix this feeling.

i wouldnt necessarily say she was a “bully” but i dont know how else to word it. this happened a long time ago in middle school (started in elementary) im now 20 .

in elementary she and i used to be best friends and we used to share a lot of the same interests but one day we were reenacting tv shows and i accidentally hit my pencil against her hand leaving a mark i apologized a lot and even cried bcus i felt so bad she began to hate me after this and would insult me , make up rumors to the teachers that i did something i didnt to get me in trouble . starting middle school we were slightly better terms but it began to happen again after i told her i went to this one concert (she also really wanted to go) she got really angry at me bcus of this . rumors about me began to start , im still clueless on what the actual rumor was but she messaged me asking why i did something , i told her i wasnt sure what happened or what she was talking about and she told me to stop playing dumb and own up to it or she will beat my ass . she then later messaged me saying it was a false alarm but now i know not to mess with her

couple weeks later pass and she approaches me in person telling me to kill myself to make her and everyone else happy , told me to go into the bathroom and hang myself , told me to slit my wrist and let her watch . she said because of the things this is the only way she can forgive me . she continued to act this way and would tell her friends stuff and they would also inflict pain onto me , this happened until eventually i switched schools it really genuinely did make me suicidal and this stuck with me forever basically.

the reason i say i cant call her a bully is bcus whatever these rumors were mustve been saying i did something terrible and she was being protective of her friends and herself , i dont know what these rumors were but since she genuinely believed them (or so i think if it wasnt her creating them) thats why she felt the need to act this way
i feel terrible about whatever these rumors mustve been for her to feel so much pain for her to react this way , i hate that these rumors started and not just for me but for everyone it created a lot of unnecessary tension and anxiety

i still think about her and check her social medias and she constantly talks about change , growing up and being the best person you can be . talks about kindness and always be nice bcus you don’t know what will happen

i want to dm her to ask what these rumors were , i dont want to tell her or remind her of the things she said or did and i dont want an apology , i just want to clear up any potential problems or issues there may be surrounding us or me still although im afraid what if she doesnt remember it or doesnt remember me at all (even if we have mutual friends)

the subreddit meant for this wont let me post so im hoping some in this subreddit will know
but i just downloaded EZWAY but was wondering overall how it worked? the app is under maintenance right now so im not able to actually access it but i want to order clothes from taobao , do i have to order the clothes first or put my info into EZWAY first. i understand EZWAY is to help customs and goes with your passport but how will they know the customs order is mine LOL i dont understand but if anyone can explain it to me like im 5 i would really appreciate it

i want to send a taobao order to taiwan and i know you need a taiwanese ID for customs but i do not have that unfortunately and dont know anyone in taiwan for them to order for me , is it possible to order to a warehouse or hotel and use their information and if so which one ?

as delusional as this sounds i just thought it would be something fun and silly to discuss !
i dont mean real crushes but just like wow they are handsome/pretty hallway type of crush or just generally interested in the fan (like a friend crush)

i know idols see pretty and handsome people everywhere but personally if i was an idol being showered in love and affection by someone i found attractive i would be head over heels LOL

i saw a tiktok and wanted to talk about it bcus it truly warmed my heart !! i also wanted to remind others there is still hope in kpop fans and i hope everyone can be nicer to each other

this kpop idol remembered a fan after they last met in 2021, he took one look at her and instantly knew her and her name it was toooooo cute ! the fan didnt mention to him that she was traveling to korea so thats why i find it so special he was confident enough to mention her name and how they met !!

the fan also mentioned how in the last fancall they had he promised to study english often to speak to her better and now he is nearly fluent the interactions between the idol and fan is too sweet he seems very fond of her 🥺overall the idol himself seems like such a sweetheart

i LOVE to see interactions and idols like this !!
moments that are sincere and genuine in this way deserve way more recognition i genuinely think it was one of the BEST videos ive seen recently after all the drama and hate in kpop recently. if there are any sweet moments or cute memories you would like to share plssss comment i would love to read

i am bored and would love to chat with more fans 😗

hello i am f23 and i want to be more beautiful especially without makeup what are some ways you would suggest :,)

i believe without makeup i look very masculine esp bc of my jaw and my eyes looks hollow and dark, any creams or products could help ? any habits i should pick up or facial exercises?