r/bullying

Its not that hard to teach your kids not to bully but yet somehow parents don't teach their kids not to bully. Is this laziness or something else.

I’m a Sec 3 student in Singapore and I’ve been getting bullied in school for a while now. People keep making fun of where I’m from, my family, and even the things I enjoy. I like anime, gaming, and football, and somehow they always use that against me.

They even found my TikTok and started stalking it. They called me “horny” just because I play a game called Umamusume. Honestly, I don’t even get why what I watch or play bothers them so much.

They also told me to “go back to my country” and kept bringing my family into it, which really got to me.
One day I just couldn’t take it anymore and tried to stand up for myself. I put my hands on his shoulder/chest area and told him to stop. I wasn’t trying to choke him or hurt him at all.

After that, he tried to fight me and even started pinching my chest. While that was happening, someone else came from behind and punched me.

Now he’s saying I choked him, which I didn’t. I’m also getting punished for putting my hands on him, but it feels like no one is really looking at everything that led up to it.

I know I shouldn’t have touched him, and I’m not saying I handled it perfectly. But it still feels unfair that I’m being punished without the bullying and everything else being properly taken into account.
I just wanted it to stop. I don’t want to fight anyone. I just want to be able to enjoy my hobbies, play football, and live normally without being targeted or told to go back to my country.

For context this fella has been bothering me for years and it's gone back and forth for a while and when I got to highschool I thought I'd be fine then sophomore year is now here and he's in the school now so instead of talking to me face to face, man to man, he sends his friends to handle his business and I called him out on it believe me and he keeps talking that trash I say the limits to verbally defend myself I will not say what's been said but overall he's just been a headache to deal with and I don't won't it to get physical I really don't I know I have the capability to defend myself and more but I don't want to hurt anyone it's not in my nature but anyway it's gotten to the point he's accusing me of stuff I have never done and it's starting to take a toll and bothering me to the point I just try getting to and from class without saying anything to anyone except my girlfriend or hbs I'm welcome to advice or criticism I really don't care I just need to vent

As someone who went through bullying I stayed silent, scared of the consequences to speak up about how I feel and what I went through , scared of what others would think about my situation, I suffered and suffered until I got to a low point. I never got to speak up, but it’s never too late to speak up and that’s what I’m doing right now, I wanna speak up not only for myself but for everyone. Some students don’t know the small actions they do, the words that come out of their mouth can truly destroy and pierce someone’s peace. Kindness is free and everyone deserves that. Be open minded be self aware be careful with the words that come out of your mouth it might not seem as a big deal as the “speaker” but it’s a big deal for the “listener” so people please learn to be cautious of ur words. Bullying comes in so many factors from verbal to physical and both of them can truly affect someone’s life , no one knows how much it can impact when it gets to a point where they suffer and it reaches their mental health. Every time I hear someone getting bullied it’s like having a flashback what I went through and how much it hurt and it gets to a point that even though I don’t know that person I’ll truly stand up for them even as a stranger because no one deserves to go through that alone, id speak up for that person like im the one wearing the shoe, I’d put myself in that situation and I’d fight so hard just to earn that persons peace and that sums up what kind of person I am. I don’t care if it’s not my problem if someone’s suffering if someone’s is in need of help it is my problem. I know god damn well that not everyone has the guts to speak up, so if they can’t do it,do it for them‼️ the most powerful thing we can do is use our mouth because silence is never the answer to peace. Being quiet about how you feel isn’t peace, protecting their image so that you won’t be affected by them isn’t peace! If you don’t feel peace they don’t deserve to be at peace. They say “karma will get them” and it will truly get them but that doesn’t mean you should be silent about their behavior and how much it affected you.

Hi, im js a normal girl from asia n i have been experiencing this since i was 13.I have been wearing glasses since i was 9yrs old n i cannot see without my glasses.Ever since i got into the smk life , it has been hell.Malay guys keep calling me mia khalifa.There was once where i was walking by this class when a guy called me using tht name n i lashed at him.Whenever my teachers combine classes with the last class students they will always call me mia khalifa.I hated showing my face to anyone or even going up the stage.

After three years in that smk i changed to a new school I thought it would stop since i changed my glasses frame but it got worse.Whenever i go everywhere most of the malay guys in my school class me that.There was once i went up the stage for a singing competition where all the juniors were gathered suddenly some of the guys started straight up laughing at me n calling me that name.I felt humiliated so bad that i was willing to end my life.

I started crying very badly bcs of that my self confidence is shattered n im very scared to face ppl tht i always cover my face whenever i walk past classes.Idk what to do or whom to share this with.I told my frnds abt it they said to not bother but they don’t understand how much it hurts when i get called like that js bcs i wear glasses.As an indian girl i cannot live a life like this, its very shattering but im holding on to my dear life.Thank you so much for listening.

I just transferred to a new middle school for 7th grade and it’s been awful so far. First off, I didn't have the right dress code or backpack on the first day, so random people immediately started judging me.

​Now, this girl with red hair keeps talking talking loud to her friends right near me saying I'm "chopped," and other random kids are constantly making comments. To make it worse, my school has assigned seats at lunch, so I am forced to sit right next to people who don't like me and actively pick on me every single day. I don't have any friends here yet, so lunch feels impossible.

​I really don't even want to go to this school anymore and am looking into online school options. Has anyone else dealt with assigned lunch seats next to bullies at a brand new school? How did you survive it or get your seats changed?

Hey Reddit weird question but is revenge 🌽 cyber bullying or a form of cyber bullying. I need to settle this.

Everything started because I don't have a mobile phone yet and my family wants me to wait until I am older, but this other kid who is only 9 already has one. He started mocking me and picking on me for it, and then he teamed up with another kid at school who fakes having ADHD just to get special classroom breaks. They use those breaks to target me and tease me.

It has gotten really bad now because they have recruited a whole group of other people to join in and bully me too. They shout mean things, use really nasty, prejudiced, sexist, and racist language, and they constantly target me and make fun of me just because I support Southampton FC. When the main kid gets called out on his bad behavior, he just claims he has a condition and says "I can't help it" to get out of trouble, but he knows exactly what he is doing.

To make things worse, they have started targeting my family. They found out my uncle is gay and have been making horrible, homophobic fun of him to my face. On top of that, because they all have phones, they are using Snapchat and WhatsApp groups—which they shouldn't even be on at their age—to spread extremely hateful stuff, rumors, and insults about me behind my back.

My parents already know about it, and it is finally the summer holidays now so I have a break from them, but I am really stressed about going back in September. How do I handle a whole group of people targeting me like this, and what is the best way to get the school teachers to actually listen and stop them when it is happening both in person and on group chats?

so for context im 16m in 11th grade. theres a few guys who think theyre cool and all at school. they dont study or anything just hanging out and shit. when they walk behind me or I walk by them they abuse me cuz im usually alone and dont have a gang like them. its not like I cant fight I just avoid fighting. what to do? told teachers many times no actions. im a pretty good mma fighter(4:2) and beginner karateka. i just dont wanna fight and deal with drama

I don't know if this is the correct subreddit for this; forgive me if it's not.

I am 36. I am high-functioning autistic and epileptic. I have been bullied since preschool; I moved a lot due to my mother's job.

Anyway, I was bullied since preschool; however the worst bullying came from the atrocious elementary-Jr. High School and horrendous high school. At the atrocious school and horrendous school I was bullied similarly to Carrie White (I managed to match my bullies at both schools to various iterations of Carrie; however I only know one similar to Sue Snell and one teacher similar to Ms. Desjardins, except it's a male English teacher, both at the high school, unfortunately I don't know anyone similar to Tommy Ross; I know several teachers and staff members that are similar to Mr. Fromm, though).

I recently discovered they uploaded the yearbooks online. Not only did they omit me, they omitted students they considered "undesirable" (my ex-boyfriend, who was a year ahead of me, was omitted from his year book, neither of us asked to be omitted and we're clean-looking; we don't have tattoos, piercings, etc.) for what reason I'll never know. They did the same thing when we graduated: anyone they considered "undesirable" was omitted without the person being told.

I already know that if there's a 20th reunion (graduated in 2008), I will not be going due to how I was treated there (I didn't even know if there was a 10th reunion and my answer if I did know is the same as if there's a 20th reunion, I won't be attending since I was never made to feel accepted or that I belonged). Why would I return to a place where my life was made hell and I was the designated doormat and scapegoat there?!?!?!?!

Anyway, I'm wondering if anyone else attended a school that did the same thing as the high school I attended.

What people gain from being racist?

I have been bullied and excluded in every phase of my life, pre-school, elementary, middle school, high school, and now university. The fact I can’t escape being a social pariah seriously depresses me. What are the qualities that make people “bulliable”? I don’t want to hear about how my bullies are insecure, or jealous, or seeking to exert control, or abused at home, or anything else. These things might be true, or they might not be, but they have no influence on me and I have no control over them. I want to know what makes people legitimate targets in the eyes of bullies to avoid being that. I’m tired of always being in this position. I just want people to pick someone else for a change. Advice from former bullies on what/why you bullied is appreciated so I can make sure I don’t do the same thing. Thanks.

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Whenever i use Instagram or TikTok I see so many people being mean and a bully for no reason other than being mean and being a bully.

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Well I went to school today hoping nothing will go wrong but unfortunately I was so wrong. The whole day was quite okay but the moment the school ended and I stepped out of my campus my bully cornered me. I tried to walk past him buy he yanked me back so hard slamming me on a wall. I tried to stop him but he didn't and dumped water on me pushing me so hard that I fell on the ground. I don't know why does he bully me!! And I cannot even report to the principal about him bcz he's more privileged as his dad is in politics. When I tried talking it to my mom she blamed it on me. And spoke so bad shits. I feel terrible now. I wish I didn't exist, life is so dull and I wanna die :(

I have been bullied by my mom , brother, classmates, teachers, principal, co workers , bosses and job coaches I had in the past and society .

I am very nice and shy I keep to myself I am not rude or disrespectful. People in school and people who I used to work with talk horrible and bad about me and the same with my family. And people laugh at me behind my back and say slow , dumb , ugly, retarded , dirty , nasty and lazy I am none of it . Bullies said they hate me . Some don't want to be around me .

It makes me mad when people bullies me and others . We all have feelings. I don't understand why do people bully.

Just wondering, have you gone through a bullying situation where the bullies justify themselves as wanting to help, then take revenge on you because you "overreacted" to their unwanted attention, false speculations and "help", and then spread rumors on you and start a shaming campaign, caused you to be an outcast suffering daily harassment, at the same time saying it's for your own good, you need to learn a lesson, and even say you're so pitiful for ending up in such a harassment situation?

My sister just recently decided to email me a picture of a page in my high school year book of almost 40 years ago. There was also a link for a facebook website for alumni graduates from my high school to join in order to connect with each other. All was going good while I was looking at my past picture. However, on the page there was inserted some congratulatory information on the most successful students from on that page. This, reminded me of someone there who didn't treat me so well that I forgot about and who now was the top dog out of everyone on this page. It has stirred some turmoil that I didn't really need right now to be reminded of this after so long. This just adds to my knowing this in addition to the other bullies that I know who are doing better than most people including me.

Once I graduate, I’m blocking everyone and moving far away! The people at my school are mean, racist, misogynistic, homophobic, and annoying.

I’m definitely going to be the one that goes ghost and blocks everyone!