u/HelpGloomy351

Been reading more and more about many of us who are taking care of sick and elderly parents, while supporting our own children. We are dealing with job stress and job insecurity, having to be the rock for everyone in the household while also being cooks, nurses, chauffeurs, bankers and ass wipers.

I don't have elderly parents to care for, they passed a long time ago. But I have a disabled husband and an ingrate 27-year old daughter from my teenage pregnancy in 1998 who receives rent money from us every month so she can live on her own.

She has had an estranged relationship from her natural father since she was 8. He keeps getting married to different women who support him for a while and bitterly divorce him after several years because he's a hobosexual. My daughter has been clinging to him for 20 years now while he remains apathetic, disengaged and uninvolved in her life.

She treats me very badly. Never wants to see me or spend any time with me. I moved out of state and offered to move her here and pay for all the expenses but she wants none of it. She just doesn't seem to like me for whatever reason. In fact, it seems like she hates me. She was here in March and I explained to her what is going on in my marriage with my disabled husband who is off his rocker at times and she said to me very plainly, "Well, I don't really give a shit."

What can I do? Nothing. She's my daughter. I can't stop loving her or caring about her. But she has been treating me this way since her dad left when she was 8 and I just don't really know why. Last year I visited her at her apartment (that we pay for every month), and she couldn't wait to get rid of me. Wasn't happy to see me and was relieved when I left.

It's horrible and it's become an irreconcilable part of my life. She's always been shitty to me but now it's starting to weigh on me because at this stage of life you realize you don't have all the time in the world left anymore. I'm getting old too and my only child doesn't give a shit about me when I want so much for her to have a place in my life.

I see posts every week from women in our age group who say they are invisible. Men don’t look at them anymore. How invisible are you? Do men still notice you and hit on you?

I see a consensus of hatred towards Jenny in Forrest Gump because of her past. If it’s a man hating on her, he ridicules her and calls her a wh*re. Cut and dry. She’s a wh*re who deserves everything she had coming to her.

My own ex-husband referred to her as such. And I had to remind him that she was sexually abused as a child and women tend to end up the way she did when that happens. My childhood best friend was molested by her stepfather and she’s been extremely messed up ever since and lived a life similar to Jenny.

Whenever I mention this about Jenny, the men don’t even remember that part of the movie. That Forrest had the home she grew up in bulldozed because of what happened to her there. My ex-husband said he didn’t even remember that part of the movie. I have sat and watched it with him several times and he didn’t recall any of that at all.

I really do think men are sick in the head and don’t care about how women are sexually abused. It doesn’t even occur to them to care or consider it. I thought my ex-husband was a real piece of shit over this. I guess he like so many men are pieces of shit in this way.