Any Advice Im scared to try again
28M - Lost my erection during penetration twice over 4 years apart. Looking for advice.
I'm 28 years old, and this has been bothering me for years.
The first time it happened I was 24. At that time I was drinking a lot, smoking cigarettes and weed, and watching porn almost every day.
The first time I had sex everything went fine. The second time, I lost my erection when we were having sex. I assumed it was because of the drinking, smoking, weed, or porn, so I decided to completely change my lifestyle.
Over the next few years I:
- Quit smoking.
- Stopped drinking.
- Stopped using weed.
- Started training regularly.
- Greatly reduced porn.
- Masturbated much less.
- Improved my diet and overall health.
I thought I had fixed whatever the issue was.
When I was 27, I had another opportunity to have sex. Everything was completely normal during kissing, touching, and foreplay. I had a strong erection the entire time.
But the moment I was about to put my penis inside, I suddenly lost my erection again.
That really confused me because I was healthy by then and had removed all the habits I thought were causing the problem.
Now I'm wondering if this is psychological, physical, or a combination of both.
Some questions I have:
- Has anyone experienced losing their erection only at the moment of penetration?
- Could this still be performance anxiety even if I feel excited and turned on?
- Could years of porn have conditioned my brain even though I've cut back significantly?
- Is pelvic floor dysfunction something I should investigate?
- What blood tests or medical evaluations would you recommend?
- Has anyone recovered from something similar, and what ended up being the cause?
I know Reddit can't diagnose me, but I'd really appreciate hearing from people who have gone through this before.