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I don’t even know why I decided to look at that sub, but I did and it stinks. I think this is the right place to rant about it? bc it really gave off “bpd is intentional“ vibes
the sub is for those who have been “abused” by someone with BPD. Yes, anyone can abuse anyone, but if a person with BPD so much as thinks someone’s mad at them, that’s seen as abuse. which is confusing? as someone with undiagnosed BPD I know I can’t speak for everyone. but how is anxiety toxic or abusive? it baffles me, because I’ve been called toxic to my face before, but I’m just scared for my life.
many members of the sub claim that all BPD behaviors are wholly intentional, that the person in pain knows what they’re doing, and feeling any negative emotion is actually a grand emotional manipulation. Oh, you’re splitting? That’s abusive. Oh, you’re scared? Abusive. because all pain one feels must surely be purposefully strung together to trap you. This take really pmo because I split all the time, and I don’t mean to! again, cannot speak for everyone, but splitting is such a painful experience and I will genuinely question if anything in my life was real. Claiming this pain is intentionally controlling makes it feel like you think the disorder isn’t real. Fear of abandonment is terrifying. It comes from a place of fear, neglect, and pain, not a need for control. We don’t to trap you, we want to know for a fact you really, actually, truly, definitely love us without lying (which is a hard delusion to shake)
Also. The sub focuses on BPD, but also mentions NPD a LOT. Saying that BPD is too close to NPD, that people with BPD villainize those with NPD, and that the disorders are the exact same disorder just bc they’re both Cluster B. So they’re saying BPD is just an evil extension of NPD, so… you’re the ones villainizing NPD??
anyways that’s my ted talk, please encourage me to stop the habit of doomscrolling spaces I know will make me cry :3 -Grem