Nervous with every new person partner talking to
Hey lovely polyam people.
We’re in a now settled and established poly relationship, I have another partner of 7 months and my bf has someone he’s been dating 5.
I’m more of a go deep with fewer people kinda person, he’s more novelty seeking.
I don’t find his longer term connections threatening at all and I’m vicariously kind and caring to them (not ktp but they visit our home when I’m away, I check in through him if I hear they have big life things going on, all very nice!)
But everytime he lets me know there’s a new Feeld connection I get a little rush of panic - it’s not jealousy it’s just a little ‘agh!’ And I find it confusing when everything else is so calm (and the 5 month connection should logically spook me more than the 5 minute connection) I just feel there’s a little bit of me panicking this is the person who’s going to unseat me as nesting partner or something even though logic brain knows I’m okay.
Any tips to try purge what is generally the only bad feeling that seems to pop up?