u/Helpful_Resort_1169

Has anyone successfully transitioned from a career in a frontline fundraising?

A little over 3 years into frontline work (almost 10 years in nonprofits), and thinking of a career change. Recently completed my MPA while working.

Things I enjoy about this work: interacting with people, compensation, perks (I'm in higher education)

Things I don't like: Chasing donors, disengaged board members, solicitation in general

If I have the opportunity to pivot toward something more in alignment with my personality, I'd like to. Would love to hear about others' experiences.

Found car keys on the sidewalk on Washington St this evening. DM if this might be you and we can coordinate for you to get them.

How would it look for the groom and next man to be in tuxedos and parents be in suits for our wedding (cocktail attire)?

Attire has probably been more stressful for me than necessary. My mother is disabled and has selected a pantsuit she can easily move around in and wear with her sneakers. My dad does not have the means or interest to wear a tuxedo. My in-laws however are really wanting to dress formally and insist that the father of the groom must wear a tuxedo and MIL a full gown.

Maybe I’m overthinking it, but I just feel a little protective over my parents and don’t want them to feel outshined. I also would like the photos to appear balanced. My dress is very simple, and my fiancé is wearing a tuxedo (he really wanted to after I expressed my preference for suits), which is OK.

Wondering if I am overreacting/overthinking our rehearsal dinner setup.

My future in-laws have offered to cover a rehearsal dinner with extended family only. (My fiancé and I are not having a wedding party.) We are estimating extended family only is ~45 people. 130 are invited to the wedding.

While it was super generous of them to organize, I don't feel that they consulted us much as the couple getting married and rushed into signing a contract with the restaurant for a full-blown sit-down rehearsal dinner, rather than a casual welcome party I envisioned to welcome all of our out-of-town guests. Some of my friends, for example, will be flying in from the West coast and will get no hospitality that evening.

I asked them if the rehearsal dinner (set to take place from 6-9pm) could be moved up an hour to leave more time to arrange another event with out-of-towners, and the answer was no. (I also don't think my fiancé backed me up, but that's another story.)

I don't know if I am overthinking this, but I really imagined a more relaxed gathering that accommodated everyone making the effort to come into town. Instead, it will be a more elevated event with just family. Older family friends, for example, will not be included, either. I hope I don't offended anyone in my circle who traveled all that way...