I (29F) went on a date with a guy (28) from Bumble about a six weeks ago after we had already been texting for a few weeks. Our conversations before the date were very long, personal, and felt like deep talks. After the first date, he immediately asked to see me again and also texted me that night saying he had a great time and hoped we’d meet again soon.
We continued texting a lot afterward, again with long and engaging messages. However, due to scheduling, we couldn’t meet again for about five weeks. I had to cancel one planned second date pretty last minute because I wasn’t feeling well, but we rescheduled and met again a week later.
The second date happened last Friday. He had actually brought me a very thoughtful, personal birthday gift (my birthday had been about two weeks earlier), something he remembered from our first date. In general he remembered about everything I ever told him. The date itself was really nice, he was very kind and attentive during it, and we spent several hours together until midnight.
However, the way he acted when we said goodbye felt a bit more distant and rushed compared to the first date. He also didn’t ask about planning another date and didn’t text me that night. But I thought it’s probably because he had to get up for a one day boys trip at 6a.m. the next morning.
The next morning I thanked him for the gift and wished him fun at a trip he was going to that day. He replied in the evening (while still on the trip) with short message, sharing brief details about his day.
I replied the following day asking about the trip detail he shared. He responded again later that day with a more detailed message about the trip and that he is home now and tired, but without emojis (which is unusual for him based on our previous ~200 messages)
I then sent another message last morning continuing the conversation and asking a question. Since then, he hasn’t replied that entire day (it‘s already past midnight here), even though he has been online a lot on WhatsApp.
What confuses me is that his behavior feels different compared to before the second date. He used to respond very enthusiastically, and now it feels slower and distant. I’m unsure if this means he lost interest after the second date, if I did something wrong, or if I’m overthinking it. I‘m just so confused because of the gift and the nice 5 hour date we spent together.
I’m not sure if this is just normal pacing after the early stage or if it’s a sign that his interest has dropped. Should I ask him directly or just see if he starts to engage more again?