Am I wrong for how I view cheating and monogamy? For myself?
I am deeply monogamous. To the point I feel maybe my views are insane because of how little anyone else seems to agree or share the same views with what I think
I believe that if I am with someone, and we are monogamous, and we truly love each other then attraction and lust for others should not exist and definitely shouldn’t be acted upon. Finding someone attractive is one thing, there are plenty of people I see as attractive that I am not attracted to (like my own gender) I’m talking about actual sexual and physical attraction. I view it as disrespectful and cheating and the other partner not being enough for the one attracted to someone else. I also consider porn and lusting after someone other than your partner and thinking about them sexually or wishing to have sex with them cheating.
Of course I know these are things someone may never know about their spouse unless they told them, but if I knew my spouse felt like that I would be hurt and feel like they cheated on me and don’t truly love me?
And I was rethinking ever dating or marrying in general since most men and many women do not seem to adhere to these views when it comes to relationships, and cheating (like sex with someone else) is always so prevalent.
Majority of the world says these things are natural and normal and one shouldn’t be upset or consider it cheating. So, I feel crazy viewing it this way but I also don’t think I can ever change how I feel about it.