Seeking advice
I wrote in here about a year ago and thankfully things have been good. My kiddo’s father still does ridiculous things but hasn’t been keeping my kid from me. My child has been staying with me recently which I’m extremely happy about. However, my child is starting to not want to see their dad. At first they would still go over but now hasn’t seen dad for a couple weeks other then the other day for 2 hours. I have encouraged them to go over but they will set a day then last minute doesn’t want to go. I did allow this just because some of those days dad was working and wouldn’t even be home until late so I figured no harm and another time because my kid had a project due and wanted to stay with me to finish it. With us not having a court order I’m not sure the right thing to do. My kid is supposed to go tomorrow, do I just make them go or allow them to keep not going if they decide they don’t want to go. While I have my issues with dad, I never bad mouth him and would never just take my kid away the way he did to me. I’ve never wanted my kid to hate their dad or anything. I do think it’s a natural consequence when you alienate a child then they see the other parent isn’t the horrible monster they were made out to be. But even after everything, I don’t feel right to not encourage my kid to see their dad. Sorry if this is all over the place. Any advice?