How do you co-sleep when the baby won’t lie next to you?
I’m at a point of desperation, I’m back at work full time now, and my husband and I both work fully from home but we are our babies only caretakers. We are really hitting a wall with lack of sleep and I’m worried it’s going to lead to one of us losing our jobs.
We have a 14 week old who will in a very literal sense not be set down. We’ve ended up doing this routine to survive: I sleep from 9pm to 2am, my husband sits up awake holding the baby while he sleeps. Then I take over and hold him the rest of the night while my husband sleeps. (Our baby still wakes up every 2 hours as well fyi)
This is becoming unsustainable. I’ve tried and failed a number of times to co-sleep with our baby because I thought it might be better and help us all get more sleep. But he refuses to lie next to me, even if he’s pressed against me. He won’t do it. He wants to be fully in my arms on my lap. Idk maybe it’s my fault, maybe I’ve made him used to that? We were just trying to survive. But maybe weve gotten him used to only full contact? It’s almost like he can sense that I’ve laid down, and immediately wakes up screaming. This sounds dramatic I know, but I feel like I’m being tortured, it’s like he actively doesn’t want us to sleep. He wants us awake holding him while he sleeps full contact on us and that’s all he wants.
Anyone else have this problem? How did you fix it?